Marriage is a scary step, and no matter how much you love your partner the idea of spending the rest of your life with one person can be daunting. The country’s high divorce rate isn’t exactly encouraging. One study by Indiana University found that as many as 23% of men and 19% of women have admitted to cheating on their spouses. Statistics like this make marriage seem scarier than it already is, yet studies continually find that married people are happier than their single counterparts.
If you love your partner and want to have a family and long-term commitment, marriage may be inevitable. Rather than rushing into a something that won’t last, take the time to make sure the person you love now is someone you can love in 40 years. Ignore your insistent parents, those pushy newlyweds, and any other societal pressures that are pushing for a proposal. Take your time and make sure you and your partner are a lasting match. These questions help cut through some of the layers to understand each other at a deeper level.
1. What are your religious or spiritual beliefs?
It may not seem like a big deal now, but when there are kids involved or you reach a rocky moment in your marriage, sharing the same beliefs can make or break a marriage. If one of you plans on attending mass every week and the other has no interest, there will be friction. Research has found a significant link between relationship satisfaction and religious factors.