9. Making assumptions
A complaint I hear often from clients is that they are constantly being misread or misunderstood by their partner. Incorrect assumptions about others happen in relationships all the time. This can cause resentment, anger, and lack of trust to build up, not to mention the unnecessary arguments that can result. And what was once a fairly healthy, workable relationship can start to crumble.
Take a moment to step back. Watch, look, and listen. Don’t be so quick to judge or assume your partner is mistaken about something. Base your judgment on objective observation and interactions with that partner and not on what you thought you heard or what you imagine your partner was thinking. If you have questions, simply ask and give the other party a chance to clear up misunderstandings to correct false assumptions.
Pam Evans, relationship expert