Husbands in These U.S. Cities Are Seriously Unfaithful

When looking at the statistics of anything, you have to think about correlation and causation. Like if you live in one of America’s divorce capitals, does that mean the city caused you to get divorced? Of course not. But what’s going on in that city, the demographics of people who live there, the jobs they work, and the lifestyles they have all play a role in things like divorce rates and infidelity rates that’s worth thinking about. As the saying goes, “birds of a feather stick together.” So whether it’s that people who are likely to cheat are drawn to the same areas, or the way of life in certain areas leads to more cheating, it’s hard to say. 

If you’re in a committed relationship, you’d like to think that you won’t experience infidelity. Still, it happens. And with sites like Ashley Madison and other cheating/hook-up sites around, there is now lots of data to show which cities have the most users of these services. Maybe you don’t want to read too much into it if you live in one of the cities on this list. But, for the sake of keeping marriages healthy, it’s probably good to know the top 15 cities where husbands are most likely to be unfaithful. And sure, the data fluctuates from year to year, but these cities are consistently at the top of the list.

15. New York City, New York

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New York’s presence on this list should come as no surprise to you. It’s the most populated city in the country, it’s the city that never sleeps, and there are tons of people just trying to make a way in the world. We’re truthfully surprised it isn’t higher up on the list! According to The Atlantic, the most common areas for cheating in New York City are actually the affluent areas. Studies show that financially independent people are more likely to cheat. And since Millennials are the first generation to have a more even distribution of financial independence between males and females, it makes sense there are more cheating husbands in New York City.

Next: This next large, beach city probably won’t surprise you either.

14. San Diego, California

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If we’re going off of high population and affluence as indicators of cities where there is a lot of cheating, San Diego has those two things in the bag. Although you might think the hot beach bods have something to do with these cheating rates, studies show you’re more likely to cheat with someone less attractive than your spouse. Having someone hit on you who is more attractive can be intimidating and less likely to lead to a cheating situation.

Next: This next city is ironically also one of the best cities for married couples.

13. Chicago, Illinois

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A large city certainly seems to bring more opportunities for husbands to be unfaithful to their wives. And Chicago is the third largest city in the U.S., with nearly 3 million residents. Strangely enough, Chicago is also one of the best cities to be married in as well. It’s less expensive than New York but has most of the same cultural attractions — the art, the museums, the nightlife, and everything else a large city has to offer.

Next: We didn’t see this Midwest city coming.

12. Indianapolis, Indiana

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Data from Ashley Madison shows there are many people in Indianapolis who cheat. Why is that though? There are many reasons both men and women cheat. But the No. 1 reason men cheat is to boost their ego because they have low self-esteem. Of course, another evolutionary argument for men cheating more than women is their biological need to spread their seed. However, this argument loses traction over the years as other, less-biological reasons seem to be more common.

Next: Facts about this next city have us asking more questions about correlation vs. causation.

11. Columbus, Ohio

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Did you know Columbus is on the list of the top 100 drunkest cities in the U.S.? This has us asking if these two unfortunate statistics could be connected. Perhaps, people who find themselves drunk more often are more likely to cheat. Or is it that some of the same external factors cause people to overindulge on alcohol also lead them to cheat on their wives. Perhaps we’ll never know.

Next: Keep this city weird, but not that weird!

10. Austin, Texas

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Austin, Texas is a city that prides itself in its unique, free culture and support of small businesses. Perhaps this culture is one of the reasons Austin has a high number of cheating husbands. Some research even shows Austin as the city with the most cheating spouses. Maybe find other ways to keep it weird, Austin!

Next: Among the obvious reasons, this city may give husbands another reason not to cheat.

9. Charlotte, North Carolina

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While there is a lot of infidelity going on in Charlotte, interestingly, North Carolina is one of only nine states that allow spouses to sue the cheating spouse for ruining their marriage. There have even been judgments awarded for over $30 million to spouses who have been cheated on. Unfortunately, the precedent of these rulings hasn’t seemed to deter cheating husbands in Charlotte.

Next: This is the second city on the list in the great state of Texas.

8. Houston, Texas

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Along with Austin, Houston is the next Texas city to make this unfortunate list of cities where husbands are more likely to cheat. At one point, nearly 100,000 of Ashley Madison users lived in Houston. Those are some daunting numbers! And while Texans sure are proud of their state, this is one “top 15” list we are sure they would prefer not to find themselves on.

Next: Another California city makes the list.

7. San Francisco, California

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A high number of cheaters in San Francisco begs the question — do marriages that deal with infidelity end in divorce? Perhaps a slightly more positive bit of information in this article is that many marriages work through infidelity, with only a range of 20-40% of divorces citing cheating as the reason. 

Next: California, you really aren’t looking too hot here.

6. Los Angeles, California

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It may not surprise you that Los Angeles is a prime city for infidelity. But what may be news to you is how many high-profile Hollywood stars stayed with their husbands through a cheating scandal. Cardi B, Pink, and Sarah Jessica Parker and just a few of the women who chose to work through infidelity from their spouse to see what the future would hold.

Next: Cheating on your spouse isn’t the only cheating this city is in hot water for right now.

5. San Jose, California

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San Jose and Silicon Valley, in general, can’t seem to stay out of the press for one kind of cheating or another. Whether it’s climbing the charts as one of the cheating-est cities around or making headlines for the college admissions scandal, it’s not good news. But perhaps you are more likely to get away with cheating on your spouse than you are to get away with cheating to get your children into good colleges.

Next: The City Brotherly Love has some other love going on too.

4. Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

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Philadelphia might be known as the City of Brotherly Love, but it’s also the city with the fourth highest amount of cheating in the U.S. Nearly 120,000 Ashley Madison users live in Philadelphia, making it near the top of the list you don’t want to be on.

Next: Men and women are equally likely to cheat in this Texas city.

3. Dallas, Texas

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While the men have come under fire in this article, surprisingly men and women in Dallas are equally likely to cheat. Ashley Madison CEO claims that’s because women in Dallas are outspoken and aren’t afraid to get what they want. Well, we are all for women empowerment. But we aren’t quite sure if this is a good thing or not. You’ll have to decide for yourself.

Next: Which city will make the #2 spot on this infamous list?

2. Denver, Colorado

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They’ve got the mountains, they’ve got the active lifestyle, they’ve got city living, and the second highest number of Ashley Madison users per capita, too. And while it seems you can find studies to prove any point, a recent study out of the University of Colorado says men are more likely to cheat in a relationship at some point in their lives than women. The study reported 21% of men have cheated as opposed to only 13% of women.

Next: And the city with the most cheating husbands is…

1. Seattle, Washington

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So here it is — the city with the most Ashley Madison users per capita is Seattle, Washington. And interestingly enough, Starbucks gift cards are the most commonly used gift cards to pay for Ashley Madison subscriptions. If you weren’t aware, Ashley Madison has an arrangement to accept gift cards for common retailers as payment so suspicious wives won’t get tipped off by unusual charges. So, strangely, this home of Starbucks coffee brings the story full-circle.