This Is What Meghan McCain Misses Most About Thanksgiving

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As families throughout the country gather at the Thanksgiving table, many remember those who are no longer present this year. The holidays can be extremely painful and lonely.

Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D. wrote about what it is like to endure the holidays after a loved one dies. “The holidays after a recent death highlight the absence and often throw people into confusion,” she penned in a PsychCentral article. “Grieving people know they should ‘move on’ – whatever that means – but aren’t at all sure they want to and don’t know how.”

Some people, like Sen. John McCain’s daughter Meghan, post tributes during a painful time. John McCain died on August 25 at age 81. The senator from Arizona battled a malignant brain tumor, called a glioblastoma. But he decided to cease treatment shortly before his death. Meghan gave an impassioned eulogy, which really demonstrated her close bond with her dad. She’s been missing him horribly, which is evident in these Instagram posts.

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84 days without you. You used to get up early in the morning and go get us all Starbucks in town in the Cottonwood Safeway and then come home and make eggs and bacon. You always had a giant venti cappuccino. We would eat on the porch and talk about life and politics while you read the newspaper and watched out for the hawks to fly by. I want to tell you about everything and get your opinion on everything – just like we used to do. I don’t know how you go from talking to someone seven times a day to never. It is still so indescribably surreal to go through the motions of life without sharing all of it with you – like some awful parallel universe I fell into. The pain of missing you and the grief that comes with it continues to be sharp and primal. Some waves are more intense than others but they come every day relentlessly. Stay with me. Stay with me. Stay with me. I fight on because that is what you told me I had to do and demanded of me. I know you made me so tough and strong with the intensity that only you could have purposefully – and for that I am the most grateful. You raised me “Don’t let the bastards grind you down” you always said. Thank you for always, always being on my team and for being my best friend. I love you forever. To anyone else in my place or those who are not – I wish we wouldn’t put time limits or rules on grief, we all do it differently in different ways. I shared my father on social media while he was here (and he loved it) and I choose to continue sharing him now that he is not. There’s always the unfollow button if recognizing the impact of death and loss makes anyone uncomfortable. ♥️

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Meghan is clearly in pain as she posted an image of her father making breakfast and, “84 days without you.” Clearly, as the rest of the country moved on with their lives, Meghan’s grief continues to grow. She wanders through mornings with her father where he’d pick up Starbucks and then return home to cook for everyone.

“We would eat on the porch and talk about life and politics while you read the newspaper and watched out for the hawks to fly by,” she wrote. “I want to tell you about everything and get your opinion on everything – just like we used to do. I don’t know how you go from talking to someone seven times a day to never.”

Meghan shares how life is “so indescribably surreal to go through the motions of life without sharing all of it with you – like some awful parallel universe I fell into.” Meghan describes her pain as being both sharp and primal, with waves more intense than others.

She is thankful for her father

She thanks her father for being ” on my team and for being my best friend. I love you forever.” Meghan reaches out to others who are missing a relative, especially during this time of year.

“To anyone else in my place or those who are not – I wish we wouldn’t put time limits or rules on grief, we all do it differently in different ways. I shared my father on social media while he was here (and he loved it) and I choose to continue sharing him now that he is not. There’s always the unfollow button if recognizing the impact of death and loss makes anyone uncomfortable. ♥️”

Thanksgiving was John McCain’s favorite

The spirit of the day is not lost on Meghan. She posted the sweetest tribute to her dad on Thanksgiving Day. “Today is your favorite holiday. Happy Thanksgiving Dad, wherever you are. I miss you terribly. And to everyone else who this holiday is hard for – you are not alone, I am thinking of all of you.”

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