’90 Day Fiancé’: Elizabeth Accuses Andrei of Acting Like a ‘Chauvinistic Alpha Male’ and Calls Him Out For Being Jobless in ‘Happily Ever After’ Sneak Peek
Gender roles have always been a major topic of conversation, and contention, for 90 Day Fiancé stars Elizabeth Potthast Castravet and Andrei Castravet. Andrei, a 33-year-old from Moldova, made no bones about the fact that he expected to be the head of the household when it came to his relationship with 29-year-old Elizabeth.
Elizabeth pushed back against some of Andrei’s stricter expectations, especially when it came to modesty and drinking. She also often wondered why her husband didn’t find steady work after moving to her home state of Florida, given his traditional ideas about gender roles.
In a new sneak peek of an upcoming episode of TLC’s 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, these issues between the couple cropped up yet again in front of Andrei’s parents. Just a day after the pair arrived, with their baby Eleanor in tow, for their second wedding in Moldova, Andrei and Elizabeth argued bitterly about their cultural differences over breakfast as his family looked on.
Andrei and Elizabeth had a tense discussion about Americans and Moldovans over breakfast
The morning after their arrival in Moldova, Elizabeth and Andrei sat down for a sumptuous breakfast spread with Andrei’s parents, Vasilisa and Stefan. Due to the language barrier, Elizabeth explained, she had trouble communicating with her in-laws. Still, she wanted to try to get to know them on a more personal level if she could.
Elizabeth, clearly impressed by the breakfast Andrei’s mother had prepared, wanted to know if the elaborate food display was just for guests. “Does she do this every day?” she asked Andrei.
“Every day, but I make it nicer when we have guests,” Andrei’s mom told Elizabeth, with her son translating for her.
“Doesn’t it make her tired, though?” her daughter-in-law asked.
Andrei seemed to take a jab at Americans—and his wife—when he replied (without asking his mother first), “Mom says, ‘There’s no room for tired.’ This is how it is in Moldova. You work all the time and just move.”
His wife immediately took umbrage at his backhanded comment. “Okay, so are you trying to say I don’t do that?” the 90 Day Fiancé star asked, the atmosphere in the room clearly getting tense.
“We’re more energized,” Andrei told Elizabeth of Moldovans.
Elizabeth called out her husband for not having a job
Elizabeth’s eyes flashed with irritation as she faced off with her husband. Calling attention to his unemployed state, she reminded him that he wasn’t exactly working at the time himself.
“Is that why you have a job? Is that right?” she asked him pointedly.
Visibly annoyed, Andrei responded in a challenging tone, “Okay, you want to insult me?”
“Well, you’re a man, right? You’re head of the household?” Elizabeth asked, as Andrei’s parents looked on in confusion.
“I am,” Elizabeth’s husband said confidently.
Pointing out the contradiction in what he was saying, Elizabeth pointed out, “But I thought you were a hard worker from Moldova, right?”
Andrei put a stop to Elizabeth’s comments, retorting, “You don’t want to insult me like this in front of my parents. It’s good that they don’t understand that.”
He told 90 Day Fiancé producers that he was simply pointing out cultural differences between Moldovans and Americans—no matter how his wife had taken his remarks.
“This is how Moldovan women do it,” Andrei said. “They make breakfast. They clean the table. They clean the house. And plus, they raise children, and plus, they work. Libby got a little bit offended. I didn’t mean no harm by it. Maybe she’s gonna take example for it.”
The tension between the ’90 Day Fiancé’ stars was palpable as Elizabeth called Andrei ‘chauvinistic’
But Andrei wasn’t quite finished with his own comments. “This is not America over here already,” he declared.
When Elizabeth asked what her husband meant by that, Andrei responded in a clipped tone, “Over there you listen, and here you listen double.”
As the 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After sneak peek concluded, Elizabeth complained that her husband’s behavior was incomprehensible. In particular, she pointed out that Andrei’s opinions about gender roles didn’t exactly match with his own life, in which he was a stay-at-home father and his wife had a full-time job.
“I don’t know what is going on with Andrei since we arrived,” she told producers, “acting like this chauvinistic alpha male that talks about Moldovan housewife traditional roles when he lives in America, and he’s a stay-at-home-dad, and I’m the breadwinner.”
The 90 Day Fiancé star worried that this was a bad omen for the rest of the trip. “And I think it’s too early in the trip to be insulting each other,” she lamented.