’90 Day Fiancé’: Geoffrey Insists That Mary Was Not a ‘Rebound’ After Varya

Geoffrey Paschel is one of the more controversial 90 Day Fiancé participants. Fans of the show watched him go to Russia to ask Varya Malina to marry him. She told him, “not now.” She said she felt they were moving too quickly but that their relationship was moving in the right direction.

“So you’re basically saying no,” he responded.

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Geoffrey was trying to ghost Varya after his trip to Russia

In an interview with The Domenick Nati Show on May 19, Geoffrey says he understood the conversation they had after he proposed to be a breakup.

“I don’t feel like I broke up with her when I left. I felt like she ended the relationship. This was all set. We were gonna go there, potential marriage, we’re gonna get engaged, whatever. And with that said, with her turning me down with a ‘not now,’ I was done. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I put so much into it and I didn’t feel like I got it back,” he said.

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Varya, on the other hand, understood the conversation to mean exactly what she said: that she’d like to continue on the same path but wait a bit on getting engaged.

Geoffrey said in the interview that he’d been “ignoring” Varya with the intention of letting their relationship fizzle out.

“She had been messaging me for the past several weeks to a month, I’d been ignoring her. Oh sending this like, ‘Hey how’s your day?’ I’d be like, ‘Hi fine.’ Just kind of really low-key. You know, just let it die down,” he said.

Geoffrey and Mary

But the next time the 90 Day Fiancé audience saw Geoffrey, Varya was knocking on his front door. Meanwhile, he had a woman named Mary over who’d spent the night.

“It was Mary’s birthday, that’s why I took her to dinner, that’s why I gave her flowers. The conversation moved into something more romantic and it kind of went from there. Then pretty much Varya showed up the next day. So it was like a quick, spontaneous thing going,” he said.

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Going fast is who I am. It doesn’t matter if it is riding a bike, jumping out of a plane, or, as many have seen, jumping into a relationship. For as long as I can remember, it has always been one of my personality traits. Some may call me impulsive. However you define it, I have learned to embrace it. Obviously, there are risks: I can burn out easily, become unhealthy and mentally drained, decrease my life expectancy, or race by opportunities blurred by my speed. No matter what, I am always in high gear. I have adjusted to this lifestyle and wouldn’t have it any other way… . I have become increasingly vigilant in my actions. I may push the bike to its limits, but I am always looking ahead—watching—analyzing—predicting others' subsequent moves. This perspective has saved my life numerous times and protected me time and time again. I may be extremely spontaneous and adventurous, but my risk-taking is paralleled with hazard management. Just as fast as I can get into a situation, I can get out of it. It's about self-preservation. . My survival depends on what I allow to affect me and what I deflect. Of course, I can initially react to situations with visible emotions, but then am quickly reminded that I only control my own actions. Why fuel stress caused by actions of others? This gives others control of your life—such a vulnerable place to be. When I accepted the fact that there was no longer a future with Varya, I chose to be resilient. I turned off my emotions, checked out mentally, and left. . While riding the bike down the open road, I am left with only my thoughts, I clear my head. It aids me in self-reflection as I scrutinize my own actions and those of others. This forces me to “think better in the future,” be smarter, wiser, and with a more well-informed mind. I don’t know why things happen, but I accept them nonetheless. Nothing irks me more than someone asking me to interpret the actions of others. The only actions I can be held accountable for are my own. . What do you do when you’re faced with a dilemma? Analyze every potential outcome? Weigh the pros and cons? Seek solitude to clear your head and devise a new plan? I do…I do them all. Welcome to ME.

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Some fans have called Mary Geoffrey’s “rebound” after his proposal to Varya didn’t go the way he’d hoped. But the reality personality says Mary wasn’t a rebound because he had feelings for her first.

“With Mary going on… you know, three months. I wasn’t in mourning. It was like nobody died in that sense. It was just me getting over–it wasn’t a rebound because I was with Mary long ago and first. So if anything I was rekindling and basing it off of the emotions I was feeling. So when Varya showed up again it was kind of like, ‘What the hell? What do I do?’” he said.

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