’90 Day Fiancé’: Stephanie Matto Addresses Being Accused of Faking Her Sexuality for the Show

Fans didn’t trust Stephanie Matto for multiple reasons like her job of being a YouTuber. But they also accused her of pretending to be bisexual for 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days. Find out how she responded to this accusation and more.

Stephanie Matto struggled with coming out on ’90 Day Fiancé’

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The season started with Matto looking forward to meeting Erika Owens in Australia. However, she didn’t tell the truth about her trip to her mother.

“I’m just not ready for her to meet my mom yet,” Matto told her friends on the show. “My mom doesn’t know that I’m bisexual.”

The YouTuber said, “I’ve kept my bisexuality a secret from my family and most of my friends.” She then said, “I’ve never felt brave enough to come out to my mom because she does have these grand ideas of me marrying a doctor or lawyer, a man above all else.”

When Matto made it to Australia she had a few issues with Owens. The first one was that she didn’t want to be intimate.

Matto opened up about being celibate

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I am a monster. I am a cold bitch. Or so people say. And I can see why people would think that. “You never fuck me”, “you never touch me”, “you’re a cold bitch” are all lovely phrases exes from years past have used to describe me. But what some of these people came to know eventually is that even though it took me a long time to let my walls down, I was the most loyal and loving when given a chance. Unfortunately you will never fully know my past, you will never fully understand what it was like to go through everything that I went through and have your youth and self esteem ripped away from you. How scary and sad it is to want to love someone but be too afraid that maybe you are too damaged, too fucked up, too much for them to handle. Back in August I texted my girlfriend telling her about my celibacy and told her that the last time anyone touched me I freaked out. In my previous relationship there was barely any intimacy and the best way to describe it was “roommates” instead of partners. This ex witnessed my relapse, my inability to clot, my constant emotional and physical fatigue from medication. It took time for them to realize that my fear and awkwardness was not any indicator of the depth of my love. Dating a sick person isn’t easy. I actually feel bad for anyone who’s had to date me in the past and attempted to solve this rubix cube of a brain. I haven’t hid any of my past and what I’ve been through. It’s all on my channel. Hospital visits, me at my weakest, it’s all there and documented. However, most would just simply be fine with taking me for face value and saying I am fake without even taking the time to understand me as a person. And that’s fine, I get that people have better shit to do. But for all the women and men out there who have gone through illness and trauma and now feel like a prisoner in their own body, I feel for you. I made a video last summer talking about my celibacy and why it was important to me. I dont care if people like me, I just want people to try to understand me. Unfortunately that’ll likely never happen but still I write this. You can take it or leave it.

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The reality star faced a lot of backlash for refusing to get intimate with Owens. She addressed this in an Instagram post.

“Back in August I texted my girlfriend telling her about my celibacy and told her that the last time anyone touched me I freaked out,” read the caption. “In my previous relationship there was barely any intimacy and the best way to describe it was ‘roommates’ instead of partners. This ex witnessed my relapse, my inability to clot, my constant emotional and physical fatigue from medication. It took time for them to realize that my fear and awkwardness was not any indicator of the depth of my love.” 

She addressed this again on Instagram. That’s because she was accused of not being bisexual because she’s celibate.

She denies faking things for the show

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Matto addressed the season on her Instagram Story, according to Reality TV World. Many fans accused her of not really being bisexual.

“If I was truly not bisexual, WHY would I go on the show with a woman??? Why not fake it with a guy if that is who I was truly attracted to??? And if I was truly faking it, then why did it crash and burn?” she wrote. “Wouldn’t I, a content creator, create something better than what you all saw?! I lack affection, I am insecure, and I want months to have sex with ANYONE. With men and with women.”

She then added, “I don’t care what [genitals] you have, if I don’t feel 100% in the moment I am not faking sh*t.” Many fans questioned if she was truly bisexual because she was so hesitant with being physically intimate with Owens.

“I genuinely seek out emotional and intellectual closeness… I want to know your mind before I know your body,” she claimed. The current season is still following Matto after her breakup with Owens. Fans will have to keep watching it see if she’ll come out to her mother.