’90 Day Fiancé’: Tania Maduro and Syngin Colchester Wrestle With Power Struggles in Their Marriage In a Brand-New Sneak Peek—’It Gets Toxic’
While the 30-year-olds planned to continue their free-spirited life of travel and adventure after they got married in 2019, their plans were cut short by Tania’s sudden car accident. Her injuries left the newlyweds reeling with financial problems, physical therapy appointments, and caregiving duties.
Syngin was able to expedite his work visa, but he had trouble finding work in the U.S. The stress left him feeling depressed and driving him to drink to excess (according to him) at times.
In a new sneak peek of an upcoming episode of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Tania and Syngin prepared to travel to Syngin’s home country of South Africa to visit his brother after he was hospitalized due to a blood clot in his lung. But even their car ride to the hotel wasn’t drama-free, leading the couple to discuss their ongoing marital problems.
Tania worried that Syngin would drink too much in South Africa
In the 90 Day Fiancé preview clip, Tania and Syngin packed for their trip to South Africa. Syngin explained that his brother’s near-death experience had affected him deeply, leading him to seek a new lease on life.
“I’m flying back home because of a family emergency,” the 90 Day Fiancé star shared. “My brother had a blood clot in his lung. The doctor said they brought him in two days before it hit his heart, and he would have died.”
With tears in his eyes, Syngin said he knew just how close his beloved brother had come to passing away. “I’m just thankful that he went to the doctor’s when he did,” he said gratefully.
On the way to a New York City airport where they’d be spending the night before their early-morning flight, Syngin told Tania that he wanted to celebrate his brother’s recovery with some fun in the sun—and some time at the bar, too.
“I’m looking forward to warm weather, good friends, family, and drinks,” he told his wife cheerfully.
Syngin added that he thought his return trip to Cape Town—his first since moving to the U.S. and marrying Tania—would be an “overwhelming experience” for him.
Tania couldn’t help snarking that Syngin might be so excited because he planned to start drinking early in the morning in his home country.
His wife’s comments seemed to dampen Syngin’s mood immediately. “I don’t know why you have to bring that up,” he said testily.
But Tania told 90 Day Fiancé producers that she had legitimate reasons to be concerned. She worried that Syngin—who had a history of wild behavior, like starting fights with strangers, breaking chairs in bars, and even losing valuables like his motorcycle, when he drank—would use the trip as an excuse to get rowdy.
“Syngin and I are going to South Africa because his brother had an accident,” Tania said. “But I’m worried that he thinks it’s going to be go, go, go, party, party. ‘I can drink all night, still be fine in the morning.’”
Syngin warned Tania not to get ‘frustrated’ with his behavior or criticize him during their trip
Syngin wasn’t happy with his wife’s worries, to say the least. The 90 Day Fiancé star told Tania that he didn’t want her to be “stressed out” about the trip. He urged her to “relax” and go with the flow instead.
“You don’t need to worry so much about beer or my actions or whatever,” he told her, dismissing her worries with a wave of his hand.
But Tania doubled down. “But you know, your actions do affect me,” she reminded him.
Tania’s husband insisted that he didn’t want to hear about his drinking while they were in South Africa. He didn’t want her to spoil the celebratory mood with her concerns.
“But you know, if something does go wrong, if it gets too crazy, I don’t want you to be frustrated. I just want it to go down smooth,” the 90 Day Fiancé star told Tania.
These comments seemed to alarm Tania even more. “It’s like you’re like, ‘I know I’m going to get crazy, Tania. Just take it,’” she told him.
And while Syngin reminded Tania that she was “no queen herself” when she drank too much, Tania said she drank a lot less—and a lot less often—than her husband.
“I know my limits,” she said.
Tania explained that she sometimes felt like she had to keep watch on her husband when he drank, because she couldn’t trust him to stay safe and stay out of trouble.
“Syngin and his friends, when they get together, they drink a lot,” the 90 Day Fiancé star said. “He gets to the point where he feels like him and his friends are the only people at the bar, and it can get sometimes over the top. I can’t deal with that very well. So that’s why I feel like I’m not being heard, or if I am, I’m not being taken seriously enough.”
The ’90 Day Fiancé’ couple argued about their communication and issues of ‘control’
As for Syngin, he admitted that he “struggled” sometimes when he felt his wife was trying to curb his drinking or change his behavior. He needed to feel free, and if he felt like he was under someone’s thumb, he had an urge to rebel.
“I feel like Tania’s trying to control me at times, and I will give back extreme pushback,” Syngin explained. “If you’re telling me too much to do this and that, I’m like, ‘Leave me the f*ck alone.’”
Syngin and Tania argued about the power dynamics in their relationship. Syngin warned Tania that he didn’t want his wife to tell him what to do—but Tania reminded him that she didn’t want to feel like she had to, either.
“I’m just going to ask you again. Don’t nag me in South Africa,” Syngin said in no uncertain terms.
“I’m not nagging you in South Africa!” Tania shot back, reminding Syngin that he should know his own limits when it came to alcohol by now.
But Syngin didn’t back down. The 90 Day Fiancé star told his wife that, if she tried to change him, it was “always going to cause friction.”
“That’s why I’m asking you, don’t say anything,” Syngin declared.
The 90 Day Fiancé star told TLC producers that finding a “balance” when it came to power and communication was still difficult for the couple.
“We can sometimes say things just to be mean, and that’s when it gets very toxic,” Syngin confessed.
Meanwhile, he hoped that his trip to South Africa would give him a final sense of “clarity” on whether his decision to move to the U.S. was the right one.
“That’s still to be determined,” Syngin said ominously.