Amazon’s ‘Modern Love’: Are You and Your Partner Compatible?
In Amazon’s ‘Modern Love’ series, we’re introduced to Yasmine and Rob, a couple on their second date. Unfortunately, things go south after Rob falls off the couch and on top of his martini glass. They rush to the hospital, and the doctor tells Rob he has to have emergency surgery. Rob is surprised when Yasmine decides to stay with him during his hospitalization. During a series of questions and answers, they get to know each other and try to figure out if they’re a good fit.
How do you know if you and a new love are truly compatible? Showbiz Cheat Sheet chatted with Eric Resnick, professional dating profile writer and owner of Profilehelper.com. Here’s what he had to say.
Showbiz Cheat Sheet: What are some signs you and your date are not compatible?
Eric Resnick: Punctuality is a big one. If you are showing up to dates on time and your date is always running late, this is going to be a bigger problem down the line. Another major one is cleanliness. If you like to keep things tidy, but you can’t find the floor of your date’s car or apartment, you’ve just identified what half of your fights will be about. Once you really start getting to know each other and having the bigger conversations, that’s when you’ll start to find out beliefs, lifestyle, and things like that. If you two don’t match up in those areas, there’s a good chance you aren’t compatible.
CS: Does it make sense to continue to explore the relationship if you suspect you’re not compatible? Why or why not?
ER: It really depends on the type of relationship you are looking for. If you are just keeping it light and having fun, compatibility is far less important than chemistry. But, if you are dating with the goal of finding someone to share your life, you want to keep an eye on those areas where you aren’t compatible. You can’t change a person, so don’t even try. Just be aware of the situation and see if it feels like something you can live with, or if it’s a big enough deal that you need to bail.
CS: What’s the best way to break things off once you realize it’s not going to work between you and a new partner?
ER: Cleanly. There is no easy way to break up with someone unless it happens in the heat of the moment. If you know you are ending it, do it at the beginning of a date, not at the end. Go someplace where you can meet them. That way, you can leave when you are ready to. Don’t put yourself in a position where you’ve just dumped someone and then can’t get them to go away.
CS: Anything to add?
ER: Compatibility isn’t just about liking the same bands or that you both love sushi. That’s just stuff you have in common. Compatibility is about the bigger ideas that you both have for your lives, your behavior patterns, and the way you both choose to approach a relationship.
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