Bachelorette Hannah Brown Discusses How Her Christianity Was ‘Weaponized’ Against Her During ‘Men Tell All’

During last night’s “Men Tell All” episode, Bachelorette Hannah Brown explained that her intense initial connection with controversial contestant Luke Parker was partially born out of the fact that both parties identify as Christians. 

“It was one of our first conversations, and I wanted a man of God that had those same values,” she told host Chris Harrison. 

Hannah Brown | John Fleenor/ABC via Getty Images
Hannah Brown | John Fleenor/ABC via Getty Images

But Brown went on to say that, down the road, she felt Parker used his faith to control her.  

“Then that was almost weaponized against me. I was, at the end, threatened by the shared faith that we had. Unfortunately, the people that believe the same thing I do, do that a lot sometimes, using the same words and the same things that we believe to call out specific things and poke,” she said. 

Brown says her version of Christianity vastly differs from Parker’s. 

“The basis of what I believe is love and loving others and understanding and not shaming. His love was contingent on if I did the things that he wanted me to do as he thought a wife should do, not an unconditional love,” she said.  

Christianity, sex, and shame on ‘The Bachelorette’

Harrison asked Brown if Paker made her feel shamed during their fantasy suite date. 

“Well yeah. Luke is really obsessed with sex and fantasy suites being about sex so I’ll just tell everybody my sex life. Honestly, did I sit around being like huh, who am I gonna have sex with in the fantasy suites? No, I didn’t. That wasn’t something planned, that wasn’t something that was really anybody’s business to know, and it wasn’t your business to ever ask me,” she said, pointing at Parker.  

Parker responded:

“Are you really telling me that you never said ‘Don’t judge me about the fantasy suites because I won’t be using that for sex’?”

“I did not say that. Fantasy suites are not used for sex, Luke. You didn’t have one so maybe you don’t know but fantasy suites aren’t used for sex,” Brown shot back. 

Brown says she won’t “put up with” another partner like Parker. She’s done being shamed. 

“Now I’m like I will not put up with this because that’s not love, that’s not what the person I want to spend the rest of my life with’s ever gonna make me feel. I’m so over being slut-shamed and feeling like that makes me not a woman of faith because oh my gosh, I live my life and make mistakes and sin every single day and so do you, and so do you, and so do you, and so do you. That’s what grace is for. I’m also not gonna say that me having sex in a windmill was just like the scarlet letter on my chest. I’m not gonna stand here and feel that way. You’re not gonna make me feel that way,” she said to uproarious cheers from the predominantly female audience. 

Read more: Hannah Brown Hopes Her Relationship With Luke P. Can Help Other Women In Toxic Relationships