Besties Gayle King and Oprah Winfrey Offer This Advice on Some Pesky Holiday Stressors

It’s that time again! That wonderful time of year where you get to partake in massive amounts of gift-giving and spending time with family. Though all the songs this month tout tidings that are “merry and bright,” not all dinner tables are filled with holiday cheer when surrounded by relatives who are only seen a few times a year.

Thankfully, BFFs Gayle King and the Queen of Talk herself, Oprah Winfrey, have recently shared some valuable tips in an episode of OprahMag.com’s “OG Chronicles” on how to handle those stressful situations that may pop up during December festivities.

Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King | Frazer Harrison/Getty Images for AFI

Pass on politics

With the current political climate being in full tumult and an election year around the corner, the topic of politics may can get hotter than those chestnuts roasting on an open fire. Winfrey suggests the art of deflection to nip any discord in the bud.

“This is going on in a lot of families,” Winfrey said, according to USA Today. “We do a gratitude circle, and that’s a wonderful thing that changes the vibration and energy of the table from politics to gratitude.”

King suggested a strategy used by singer Katy Perry at a dinner party. “She wrote a sentence on a piece of paper… and then she passed it around. Everybody had to add a sentence to what it is and then at the end you just read whatever the story is,” King shared. “It completed a little story that I thought was a really fun idea. I had never seen that before.”

What to buy for the boss

When shopping for the head honcho at your place of work, deciding on what to get and how much to spend can be challenging, especially if you’re tight on cash. The besties recommend heeding Shakespeare’s wise words “To thine own self be true.”

“I always think that the best thing you can give anybody is your truest thoughts, your truest self,” Winfrey said. “One of my girls gave me for my 64th birthday a tiny little box that she had inscribed with ’64 reasons why I love you,’ and it is one of my greatest treasures in the world. Your words, thoughtfully conceived, really will mean a lot… It really is the thought that counts when there’s some thought in it.”

Though it may not be suitable for a boss, King has long been a fan of giving quirky gifts to loved ones. “We always try to give each other unexpected things,” she shared in last year in an article for O, The Oprah Magazine. “Two Christmases ago, Oprah really got us with these matching striped pajamas. We had a good laugh—and an even better photo op! What’ll it be this year? Matching sombreros? Furry clogs? I can’t wait to see what they come up with!”

A difference of opinion

When the subject of receiving a gift from a spouse that would be put on the ‘not-so-nice’ list came up, the longtime pals had different approaches. “I think you just accept it with Grace,” King said, not wanting to “break his heart.”

Winfrey took a different tack. “I say you say, ‘Honey, I think we’ve reached a point where we have everything we need and we really don’t have to exchange gifts anymore,'” she advised, saying she’s been in a similar type of situation.

Whether they agree or disagree, these two besties always share helpful insight!