Beyoncé is the kind of star that even makes other stars nervous. She’s not only an amazing singer, but she’s also a successful fashion designer, the mother of three gorgeous kids, and married to another music legend, Jay-Z.
But Beyoncé’s journey hasn’t been without pain. She’s struggled along the way, facing painful issues in a very public way. As some people know, however, hard times don’t have to make you weak or bitter. Beyoncé has taken what she’s been through and turned it into an inspiring outlook.
She doesn’t see things in black and white
It can be easy to look back and see the past in stark contrasts, thinking of painful times as bad and happy times as good. But Beyoncé explains that life isn’t that clear-cut. Even the hard times have their own rewards.
“There are many shades on every journey … I’ve been through hell and back, and I’m grateful for every scar,” she said, “Through it all, I have learned to laugh and cry and grow … I now feel so much more beautiful, so much sexier, so much more interesting. And so much more powerful.”
But that sense of power doesn’t mean she doesn’t treat herself gently. She is open about the fact that balancing the roles of mother, wife, artist, and businesswoman can be stressful. She makes sure she has the support she needs, and she focuses on good self-care so she is able to be at her best.
The struggles brought rewards
In 2014, fans were shocked to find out that Jay-Z and Beyoncé didn’t have the perfect marriage everyone thought they did. It came to light that Jay-Z had been unfaithful. Anyone who has had a partner cheat on them knows how painful that is, and Beyoncé had to go through that hurt and humiliation while the whole world watched.
But instead of ending their marriage, the couple committed to working through their issues. In time they were able to not only be honest with each other, but they even shared the truth with the world. Each of them released albums with songs that addressed the infidelity, exploring the pain and regret they felt. Jay-Z admitted publicly that he hadn’t been truthful with his wife, and together they worked to deal with the issues that almost tore them apart.
Older, wiser, and better than ever
The problems that almost ended her marriage weren’t the end of Beyoncé’s hard times. In 2017 she found out that she was pregnant, and that she was having twins. That would have been enough to deal with, but then she had dangerous complications that put her on bed rest for a month.
Beyoncé has said that she weighed 218 pounds the day she gave birth to the twins, Rumi and Sir. She underwent an emergency C-section, and the experience affected her body for a long time after. For a performer who is known for her high-energy, sexy performances, that was a difficult thing to deal with. But she’s not willing to let that pressure define her.
“I think it’s important for women and men to see and appreciate the beauty in their natural bodies,” she said, acknowledging that her curves are fuller after the birth of the twins. “I have a little mommy pouch, and I’m in no rush to get rid of it. I think it’s real. Whenever I’m ready to get a six-pack, I will go into beast zone and work my ass off until I have it. But right now, my little FUPA and I feel like we are meant to be.”
Beyoncé is the kind of person who emerges from hard times with more strength than ever. Whether she’s talking about getting better through the struggle or finding self-acceptance, we can all learn a little from Queen Bey.