Christina Anstead Opens Up About Mom Struggles, Says Hudson Is a ‘Tough Baby’

Motherhood isn’t always pretty. Christina Anstead of Flip or Flop opened up about the reality of life with three kids — including an infant — in a candid Instagram post. 

“Newborn life is hard,” she wrote. “It’s not all Instagram filters of perfection that people put out there. F that. That’s so misleading for new moms.”

Christina Anstead says she looks like ‘a hot mess’ 

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I was dropping Tay off at school this morning with a screaming Hudson in the car (and I looked like a hot mess which is the norm the past 6 weeks) when she said something that really hit home. She said mom, do paparazzi still follow you around. And I said no not lately. Why? She said well what if they got a photo of you looking like THAT I’m like I wouldn’t care, that’s the least of my worries … this is how I look and I’m still out and about, this is how new moms look. And she sort of pondered that and said she wants three kids and I have to live with her so I can watch them. Well glad these past 6 weeks haven’t scared her off from babies lol. Newborn life is hard. It’s not all instagram filters of perfection that people put out there. F that. That’s so misleading for new moms. I haven’t been online or posting much because my hands are full – literally. Huds is definitely a tough baby. He will sometimes cry for hours straight. We have had trouble with sucking (checked for tongue tie / lip tie) those were fine. Cut out dairy, tried colic calm, he doesn’t spit up so prob not reflex. What works is him tightly double swaddled in a dark cool room with very loud white noise…. Hudson’s choice of spending his time is very unrealistic when we have a crazy 4 year old running around who definitely needs attention as well as a 9 year old girl who one-on-one time is her love language. I say this with mad props to all stay at home moms / moms with more than 2 kids . Being outnumbered is no joke. I go back to work in 2 weeks so it’s about to get even more crazy around here. I’m lucky because one of my best friends, Shannon @pinkdustcosmetics , is a new mom too and she does my hair and makeup at home before work and we get to have a one hour therapy/vent session, and I know this is a luxury. So when you see me looking decent on tv know that I probably had a freaking crazy morning and it is what it is. I’m lucky because I do love my job and I’m excited to start some new episodes of #christinaonthecoast Sorry for the long post- Wish us all luck. It takes a village lol.

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Anstead’s forthright post came after she dropped her 9-year-old daughter Taylor off at school. The HGTV star noted that she “looked like a hot mess” and that Taylor asked how she would feel if the paparazzi snapped a photo of her looking somewhat disheveled. 

“I wouldn’t care, that’s the least of my worries … this is how I look and I’m still out and about, this is how new moms look,” Anstead says she told her daughter. 

Taylor then told her mom that she hopes to have kids some day. She even has a plan for how to handle her little ones. “She wants three kids and I have to live with her so I can watch them,” Anstead said her daughter told her. “Well glad these past 6 weeks haven’t scared her off from babies lol.”

She says Hudson isn’t an easy baby 

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With three kids under 10, Anstead definitely has her hands full. And her newborn is, she admits, “definitely a tough baby.” 

“He will sometimes cry for hours straight,” she related, adding that she isn’t sure exactly what’s making him so fussy. “What works is him tightly double swaddled in a dark cool room with very loud white noise.” Unfortunately, with a 4-year-old and a 9-year-old around, quiet is hard to achieve. 

“I say this with mad props to all stay at home moms / moms with more than 2 kids,” she wrote. “Being outnumbered is no joke. I go back to work in 2 weeks so it’s about to get even more crazy around here.”

Anstead is thankful for the support she gets 

In her post, Anstead called out her friend Shannon, who does her hair and makeup and is also a new mom. She says she’s grateful to have someone to talk to. 

“We get to have a one hour therapy/vent session, and I know this is a luxury,” the Christina on the Coast star wrote. “So when you see me looking decent on tv know that I probably had a freaking crazy morning and it is what it is.”

“It takes a village lol,” she added. 

Her husband calls her a ‘superstar’ 

Christina and Ant Anstead
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Fortunately, Anstead’s husband recognizes that being a mom isn’t always easy. He has nothing but praise for his wife. 

“You are literally a super human super star!!!!” Wheeler Dealers host Ant Anstead wrote. “And doing an unbelievably great job at it too! You amaze me on a daily basis! Hudz is hard! Harder than I remember (it’s been 13 years for me!) but worth each and every moment.” (Anstead has two other children from a prior marriage.)  

Other commenters on the post agreed that being a mom was tough but rewarding. “Parenthood is not for wimps,” wrote one. 

Kids are “a ton of work but nothing else in this world has ever brought me so much happiness,” commented another.