‘Counting On’: Do These Duggar Ladies Wear the Pants in Their Relationships?

The Duggar girls are taught that they are not the heads of their households. That distinction goes to their husbands, according to the family’s cultural beliefs. While they may leave a lot of the decision making up to their husbands, some fans think some of the Duggar girls have a bit more power than you’d probably expect. So, which Duggar girls are in charge of their family? The answer might surprise you.

Jessa Duggar is in the driver’s seat

Jessa Duggar has followed a pretty traditional life plan. She married young and quickly began having children. Now the mother of three, most would think that Jessa acquiesces to her husband at every turn, but Jessa has a lot of power in her marriage, mostly because her family is in complete control of the finances.

Jessa, Jinger, Joy-Anna and Jana Duggar appear on 'Good Morning America'
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Jessa and Ben Seewald are currently living in a house owned by her parents. Ben is employed by Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, and much of the family’s TV money is allegedly handled by Jim Bob. In short, Jessa’s family is way more involved in the couple’s life than Ben’s family, and are far more powerful. Jessa also isn’t shy about saying it like it is, meaning fans assume she probably has more power in the relationship than Ben.

Jill Duggar might be in control of more than you think

Jill Duggar might be a pretty traditional woman. She waited until her wedding day to kiss her husband, and she seems somewhat fulfilled caring for her young sons at home, but she might have more power in her household than most would have expected. In fact, Jill may be entirely responsible for the health and well-being of her family, including her husband.

Jill is currently the breadwinner in her house. With her husband, Derick Dillard, entrenched in law school studying, Jill has taken to the internet to bring her family some much-needed cash. Jill is currently working as a social media influencer and has a reasonably successful blog.  Sure, Derick is trying to pull in some cash with his GrubHub gig, but that’s likely nowhere enough money for the family to live. Jill is likely bringing in way more cash, which probably gives her more power than most would think she has.

Jinger is the least likely to be in control of her relationship

While Jill and Jessa Duggar appear to be in the driver’s seat when it comes to their marriages, one sister seems to be happy going along for a different kind of ride. Jinger Duggar was once considered the rebel of the family, and while she’s done some rebellious things, it appears her marriage is likely the most traditional.

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Jeremy and Jinger have figured out a way to live independently from the Duggar clan. Jeremy appears to be in control of all jobs deemed masculine, and Jinger is keeping things traditional, too. Sure, she wears pants and even sports dyed hair, but she is entrusted with caring for the family’s daughter at home, while Jeremy studies and makes ends meet for the family. Jinger might be the Duggar girl who is actually independent of her parents, but that doesn’t mean she’s completely independent.