‘Counting On’ Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard Have This 1 Strict Rule for Keeping ‘Purity’ in Their Marriage
It’s pretty obvious that Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard aren’t like most other couples. While it’s true that no two marriages are alike, there are a few things that Duggar offspring do much differently than so many other people. And Jill Duggar is no exception.
For example, the Counting On alum didn’t date her husband before marrying him. Instead, she followed the Duggar tradition of having a short courtship before becoming engaged and getting married. The two didn’t consummate their marriage until they were married — though judging from recent social media posts, they’re certainly making up for lost time now with their frequent marital sex schedule.
It turns out the Dillards have a few other interesting rules for marriage, which Derick shared in a recent blog post update.
Jill and Derick Dillard don’t keep secrets from each other
A strong marriage is based on mutual trust. But in Derick and Jill Dillard’s world, that means sharing everything — including private passwords and internet filtering services.
Derick Dillard gave some uncommon advice in his blog post, “Hot Love: How to Love Your Wife Like You Mean It.” He said that couples should regularly create boundaries together. “Regularly discuss ways you can help each other feel more secure in your relationship and then do it!” he advised.
For Jill and Derick, that means never having online secrets. “For example, it is really important to both of us that we have some kind of internet filtering service on our phones and laptops, so we decided to pay for a monthly Covenant Eyes filtering subscription and also limit some accessibility on our devices to help us be accountable to each other,” Derick wrote.
And that’s not all. He continued, saying: “We also share our social media passwords with each other.”
They’re never alone with opposite genders
Vice President Mike Pence made headlines in 2017 when it was revealed that he refuses to go to dinner or be alone with women who are not his wife. But it turns out he’s not the only one who abides by this rule.
The Dillards utilize a similar practice for their marriage. “Another thing we purpose to do is to never be alone in the same room with someone of the opposite gender,” Derick Dillard said in his post.
“Sometimes this is hard and requires more intentionality. For example, if I have a private meeting with a female, I may choose to leave the door open, or if Jill needs a repairman to come work on something at the house when I’m gone then she might invite a friend over while he’s there.”
The Dillards are keen on sharing marital advice
This latest blog post from Jill and Derick Dillard is one of many they’ve offered fans that shares marital advice. A few weeks ago, Jill Dillard had fans talking when she recommended having sex “3-4 times per week” to keep marriages strong.
As Derick Dillard concluded in his post, “We realize though that safeguards alone aren’t enough…it is more about the heart and commitment to purity, but they may be helpful in reducing the prevalence of some situations, or even just the appearance of evil.”
For all the negative attention they get, it appears this method is working well for the Dillards. More power to them!