Former Bachelorette Hannah Brown Says Meghan Markle’s Story Is ‘Relatable’ In This Way

Very quickly, Hannah Brown’s life changed forever. She reached a level of reality TV stardom after competing for Colton Underwood’s heart on his season of The Bachelorette but when she starred as the lead role in The Bachelorette, she became a household name.

Hannah Brown | David Livingston/FilmMagic
Hannah Brown | David Livingston/FilmMagic

Hannah Brown’s tough year

Though, today, Brown is enjoying all the fruits her new life has to offer, it wasn’t exactly an easy year for her.

“This season of my life has definitely had times where I felt like I’ve lost and it hasn’t been what I thought,” the former Bachelorette told Us Weekly on December 16. “But overall, the end of this season going into the year 2020, I feel like it was like symbolic of actually being a win.”

Brown began her season of The Bachelorette with high hopes she’d come out the other side engaged. She was ready to get married.

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This experience has been harder than I could have ever imagined. When I decided to do DWTS I thought it would be a fun way to channel all my energy after a whirlwind experience as the Bachelorette. I was hopeful that the confidence I gained this year to take pride in the woman I have become would have the opportunity to shine, and I’d feel that reboot in my spirit after it took a bit of a beating after my bachelorette season. I came into this experience a little broken and confused—more than I’ve shared. Everyday has brought its challenges with my past, my fears, and the uncomfortableness of opening myself up again to be judged on something VERY scary like learning a new skill to perform each week. Last night was really defeating for me and a lot of suppressed emotions started to surface from this amazing, but grueling experience. I want to be me. I want to be real. I feel my best when I feel like I have the opportunity to share my heart with others. But I know that’s been lacking in what has been seen on DWTS. It’s true there is a disconnect. I am busting my ass. I am giving this my all. It’s my focus and passion right now. But each week I fall flat. I’ve gotten to the point of being so anxious before I perform that I can’t completely enjoy it like I wish and know I could. I KNOW I have a lot more I can give. I want to be able to feel free and confident to dance with my whole heart. I’m working on getting there. I’m not throwing a pity party. I can take criticism and understand hard work…and I also know that my attitude has to change to rise above this slump I’m in. But this is real life. These are real emotions. It’s okay to be grateful and positive, while also acknowledging the hard days we all have. It’s so important to think positively, but it’s also important to acknowledge and feel all the feels. This pressure to pretend is not good for anyone. That’s how this crazy cycle of perfectionism continues to exist in a lot of us. I’m blown away by the support I see and feel from all of you who love me through it all. So thank you— here’s to another opportunity to grow. See y’all next Monday!

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But she gave her final rose to Jed Wyatt, only to discover later that he had come on the show with a girlfriend waiting for him back home. Brown was devastated and still hasn’t fully processed the events that transpired.

“Basically, I’m just realizing how much I still haven’t completely dealt with everything that happened to me on and after The Bachelorette,“ Brown said after having to perform a contemporary dance on Dancing With the Stars inspired by her relationship with Wyatt.

Why Hannah Brown relates to Meghan Markle

Something else Brown has struggled with over the last year is scrutiny from the media as well as Bachelorette fans online, as Meghan Markle struggles with.

The duchess was recently asked in an interview how she was doing and, as it turns out, she’s not OK. Markle thanked the interviewer for asking her how she was doing.

Brown can relate.

“I’m not a royal or anything, but I kind of understood that, because when people watch you and are enamored and so obsessed, and think that they know you, but don’t really ask how you are, it feels really good when somebody does. And that you’re able to have that conversation,” Brown says on the ABC special The Year: 2019.

“Whether it’s with a microphone in your face or if it’s just a friend having coffee with you. It’s really nice for somebody to ask, ‘How are you? Are you OK?'” she continued. “Even though she got criticism, which I think is ridiculous, people have to remember that she’s human and it’s OK to have human emotion and to express that. It doesn’t mean she’s ungrateful, it’s just being a real human and saying that sometimes life’s hard.”

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