Gwyneth Paltrow’s Secret to A Happy Marriage? Not Living Together

Anyone who knows a single thing about Gwyneth Paltrow already realizes that she lives an unconventional life. Unconcerned with popular opinion, Paltrow marches to the beat of her own drummer and doesn’t pay much mind to the haters.

Fans remember the unique way that she and her ex-husband Chris Martin parted ways, calling it a “conscious uncoupling” rather than a break-up. No one is exactly sure how that’s different from a regular split, but it did free up Paltrow to move on to a new man—television writer Brad Falchuk, who she wed on September 29, 2018.

It comes as no surprise that Gwyneth and Brad have a unique approach to marriage. Here’s the surprising way they make it work.

Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Falchuk
Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Falchuk | Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic

Brad Falchuk and Gwyneth Paltrow don’t technically live together

You’ve heard of married couples having separate bedrooms. But what about completely separate houses?

Believe it. As The Sunday Times reported, Paltrow revealed that she and her husband are more than content to maintain separate residences in Los Angeles and just have frequent sleepovers. It may seem bizarre, but if it works for them, who are we to judge?

Paltrow explained that she came up with that particular living arrangement after consulting with her intimacy teacher, who encouraged her to create “polarity” in her marriage. And apparently that means living apart even though you’re married. OK then!

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Gwyneth Paltrow already has her own life

If you’re looking for a great example of an independent woman, look no further than Gwyneth Paltrow. She’s the founder of the lifestyle site Goop and has plenty of film accolades under her belt. Maybe she doesn’t want to move in with her husband because she’s happy with the way things are without him.

Plus, Falchuk also has children from a previous marriage (Gwyneth shares custody of daughter Apple and son Moses with Coldplay frontman Chris Martin). It makes things easier when the kids are staying over so no one gets in each other’s way. Paltrow explained to the Times that her friends are all slightly jealous. “All my married friends say that the way we live sounds ideal and we shouldn’t change a thing,” she said.

Do Brad Falchuk and Gwyneth Paltrow have a strong relationship?

Usually living apart signals an impending breakup—but for Gwyneth and Brad, the opposite is true. Since both got together later in life, it probably seemed easier to keep their separate spaces rather than try to combine everything.

Falchuk and Paltrow met on the set of Glee when she guest starred on the show in 2010. They began dating in 2014, but didn’t take their relationship public until Robert Downey Jr.’s 50th birthday party in April 2015.

One thing Falchuk and Paltrow probably bonded over? They were both married before and both had children. Knowing that breakups are messy (even consciously uncoupled versions), they probably chose to guard their independence and privacy living apart. Plus, moving is a real hassle.

We wish the best for this unconventional couple no matter how they choose to live!