Is Bad Communication To Blame For All The Royal Feuds?

If you’ve been reading the media headlines surrounding the royal family, then the reported tension between members of the royal family is no shocking news. But why is the royal family so upset with each other? Is it over one issue or one person? Or could the problems go much deeper than what we see on the outside?

The royal family doesn’t communicate well

Royal family at Buckingham Palace | Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images

It is common knowledge that the royal family has a long list of rules and traditions that they must follow. At times, they seem stiff and unemotional, but we almost expect that of the royals. It’s understandable that the constant restrictions may create an environment where it’s difficult to express yourself.

The queen’s cousin, Lord Ivar Mountbatten, knows all about how stiff and emotionally closed the royal family can be. He was the first member of the royal family to marry his gay partner. And although they accept it, the royals also don’t really discuss it. Mountbatten knows all about the difficulty of expressing your true self in the royal family.

Speaking with the British publication, Tatler, Mountbatten admitted that the royals are terrible at communication. While discussing the impact his marriage had on the family, Mountbatten said: “But then they don’t really talk about it. I mean, the royals, they don’t communicate very well.”

His revelation isn’t a big surprise. Most royal fans could have guessed that the royals are bad at communicating, but it’s nice to have confirmation.

Are the royal feuds because of bad communication?

The media blames tension in the royal family on a feud between Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton, but insiders have revealed that the real disagreements are between their husbands: Prince Harry and Prince William.

The tension may have started with how Prince Harry perceived Prince William’s view about Markle. Prince Harry didn’t feel that his brother was being welcoming enough towards his then-fiance. Insiders claim Prince Harry blew up one night over the issue, yelling at Prince William and Middleton, while Markle sat in “stony silence.” The Cambridges were said to have been surprised by the outburst.

This is a perfect example of bad communication impacting the royal family. As far as we know, Prince Harry didn’t bring the issue to Prince William when it first began to bother him. A good communicator would have calmly expressed their concerns when it first became an issue, instead of letting it build until it exploded.

Now, the tension between the princes seems to be mostly about Prince Harry and Markle’s decision to split from Kensington Palace and create their own household at Frogmore Cottage. It seems that Prince Harry is ready to break out on his own, while Prince William is used to having his younger brother under his wing. This creates power struggles, and the only way to work through it would be with good communication. Unfortunately, it seems that’s something they’re missing.

Can the royals become better at communicating?

It’s obvious that the royals would avoid many of their issues if they had better communication. They need to start discussing issues before they become too big to handle. And they need to be able to express their true feelings without judgment. All people deserve to have that with their family.

But with all the rules and restrictions that the royal family must follow, is there any hope? How can a person be open, when they’re surrounded by hundreds of years of tradition and opinion? How can a person truly be themselves, when their position is by the grace of the public citizen? It wouldn’t be easy.

We can all understand how the royals got to this point, but we hope they’ll be able to figure out a way to get past it, for the sake of the monarchy and the family. Perhaps, this new generation and Markle’s modernizing ways could have a positive impact on the way the royals communicate?