Is Queen Elizabeth Closer to Kate Middleton or Meghan Markle?

By all appearances, it seems like the Queen gets along well with both Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle, but is she closer with one of her grandson’s wives than the other? One royal expert claims that the Queen “doesn’t have an intimate relationship” with Middleton but Markle “knows how to make her laugh.”

Queen Elizabeth Closer to Kate Middleton or Meghan Markle
Queen Elizabeth II, Meghan Markle, Prince Harry, Prince William, and Kate Middleton | Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images

Why does the Queen have a more ‘serious relationship’ with Middleton?

Queen Elizabeth is certainly pleasant to both Middleton and Markle, but appears to be more serious with Middleton.

Ingrid Seward, editor-in-chief of Majesty Magazine, explained to Fabulous Digital: “The Queen admires Kate tremendously but does not have an intimate relationship with her as they don’t have much in common.”

Seward further noted: “I think the Queen and Kate have a more serious relationship as obviously Kate holds all the Queen’s hope for the future and she would not want to do anything to upset that.”

She added: “I can’t see what she would have in common with Kate apart from her royal duties. The common bond with Kate would be her children and I can’t imagine the Queen spending too much time talking about them; she is a very shy woman, which is why a common subject like horses is so helpful.”

Her relationship with Markle is much less formal

By comparison, the Queen and Markle may have more in common and share a more casual relationship as a result.

Seward explained: “With Meghan she would tread very carefully and do her best to make her feel at home. They have a love of dogs in common and Meghan knows how to make her laugh.”

Seward noted: “The Queen has an acerbic wit and of course is an excellent mimic so she can be very entertaining — but she never forgets she is Queen even with her grandchildren.”

The Queen made an extra effort to welcome Markle

One example of the Queen sharing a special relationship with Markle can be seen in the way the Queen welcomed her into the royal family.

Royal commentator Duncan Larcombe explained to Fabulous Digital how the two women have become close, sharing: “Meghan seems to have forged a particularly close relationship with the Queen if you compare that to when other people have married into the royal family.”

He continued: “The Queen last year in the first few months of Meghan’s entry into the royal family, made a particular and slightly unusual effort to welcome her in. Unusual in the context of the trip on the royal train to do a royal engagement [in Cheshire]. I’m 99 percent sure she’s never afforded that offer to Kate.”

Did the Queen welcome Markle because of Princess Diana?

The Queen’s extra attention to Markle might have something to do with Princess Diana, as Larcombe shared that when the Queen “obviously requested” that Markle join her for a public appearance it was a way of “welcoming her into the royal family.”

He further shared: “Possibly because Meghan very much burst onto the scene in a way Kate obviously didn’t. Everyone got to know Kate and the family long before they got engaged.”

He added: “Also possibly because of the lessons of the past where Princess Diana pretty much felt like an outsider in the royal family.”

Patrick Jepson, who served as Princess Diana’s private secretary from 1988 to 1996, told Yahoo’s The Royal Box how Diana never felt included: “Both from her own childhood and from her experience of marriage, she felt that she was an outsider, that she had been excluded.”