Jada Pinkett Smith Admits She Never Wanted to Get Married

Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith are a lot of things. Conventional is not one of them. From the way they care for their blended family to the open manner in which they speak to their children, the Smith’s family dynamic certainly doesn’t fit the cookie-cutter definition of what a traditional family is supposed to be.

And though their marriage may seem pretty perfect on social media now, it wasn’t always that way.

Will and Jada’s marriage trials

People have often wondered if there has been infidelity in the Smith’s marriage.

With the creation of her new Facebook show, Red Table Talk, Jada has been open with the trials that her marriage has gone through.

On a recent episode of the show, she said that Will had never cheated on her but that there had been much bigger issues.

“I’m asked a lot about, ‘Is there infidelity in your relationship with Will?'” she said. “And it’s like, ‘No, but there’ve been other betrayals of the heart that have been far bigger than I could even think in regards to an infidelity.'”

Though they didn’t officially divorce, there was a point when Will and Jada mentally separated.

“I was devastated even worse than a divorce,” she said. “We broke up within our marriage and got back together.”

In order to find their way back to one another, Jada had to focus on herself.

“Personally, in my journey, what I had to realize was that I had to find all the peace, love and joy within my heart in order to bring it to the table to share,” she said. “Will had to go away and find the peace, love, and joy in his heart to share.”

Why Jada didn’t want to get married

When you think of strong women, Jada will almost always come to mind. And for a while, she didn’t think that that strength could exist in a marriage.

“I knew that I was not built for conventional marriage,” she recently said in an interview with The Guardian. “Even the word ‘wife’: it’s a golden cage, swallow the key. Even before I was married, I was like, ‘That’ll kill me.’ And it damn near did!”

But after getting married to Will, she figured out how to make the union work and now wants to help others do the same.

“So why wouldn’t you share what you’ve been through, when you see that other people are out there, trying to figure this crap out?” she continued. “We decided to make it public because it’s part of the healing. I feel like if we don’t have real understanding about it, I don’t know if interpersonal relationships are possible.”

Jada’s aversion to marriage had nothing to do with Will but rather the feeling of being trapped.

“Will is my life partner and I could not ask for a better one. I adore him, I never want people to think it was Will I didn’t want to marry,” she told the outlet. “But I can assure you that some of the most powerful women in the world feel caged and tied, because of the sacrifices they have to make to be in that position. So I wanted to talk about how we really feel about marriage.”