Jada Pinkett Smith Says Sharing Her and Will Smith’s Relationship Problems With Friends Is ‘Dangerous’ — Here’s Why
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have a history of being forthcoming about their decades-long relationship. They share two kids together — Jaden and Willow Smith — and are the first to admit their relationship’s not perfect.
They’ve responded to affair rumors and opened up about the challenges they’ve faced as a couple. All that aside, there’s one group of people Pinkett Smith won’t discuss her marriage problems with and that’s her friends.
Jada Pinkett Smith didn’t want to marry Will Smith
As previously mentioned, Pinkett Smith cried at her wedding. She and Smith had been dating for two years when she became pregnant with their first child, Jaden Smith.
On Red Table Talk, the Bad Moms star said she wasn’t someone who believed in marriage. She reluctantly married Smith only because of pressure from her mother.
“I was so upset that I had to have a wedding,” Pinkett Smith said. “I went crying down the freakin’ aisle getting married.”
She also called their wedding “horrible,” adding that she didn’t like the idea of being a “wife.”
The ‘Bad Moms’ actor doesn’t want friends to ‘feel like they have to take sides’
Pinkett Smith explained why she doesn’t vent to her pals about her relationship problems during a 2013 conversation with Redbook.
“Because it is dangerous. Intimacy is a very complicated thing,” she said. “There is nothing I could ever say to anyone that would give them a clear understanding of what happens between us—so why get anyone involved?”
She went on, saying she and Smith turn to each other because it’s their relationship and no one else’s.
“[Will and I] work all that out with each other; that’s part of being in an intimate relationship,” she said. “If you are giving your life to someone and this is the person you deeply love, then you should be able to come to that person with anything. There shouldn’t be a person I need to talk to outside of him.”
The Girls Trip actor added that another part of it is her friends. She doesn’t want them caught in the middle.
“And I don’t want my friends, who have a great affinity for both of us, to feel like they have to take sides,” Pinkett Smith said.
“I’ve had experiences where girlfriends have told me things about their husbands or boyfriends and I’m just like, “I am going to freaking kill him.” Then you find out there’s another side to the story! So I learned early on not to get into people’s business,” she added.
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith go to marriage counseling
When Smith and Pinkett Smith can’t resolve their issues on their own they turn to outside help. As previously mentioned, Smith once described marriage counseling as creating a “dark moment” for him and Pinkett Smith within their relationship.
He offered up details saying the “truth comes out” in counseling, allowing them to really get to know each other and move forward. Now the duo’s at the point in their relationship where they don’t call each other “husband” and “wife” or say they’re married.
Instead, Pinkett Smith and Smith use the term “life partners” because they support each other no matter what. On Dec. 31, 1997, the couple will celebrate 23 years of marriage.