Jennifer Aniston Says She’s ‘Not Defined’ by Her Relationship With Brad Pitt

Jennifer Aniston refuses to be defined by her relationship with Brad Pitt. Even though the two had a beautiful five-year marriage, Aniston is adamant that there is so much more to her than what the media keeps focusing on.

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Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt have different views about marriage

Both Pitt and Aniston have different values when it comes to marriage. In separate interviews for Vanity Fair, the two revealed opposing beliefs on marriage and “happily ever after.” According to Aniston, marriage is all about promising a lifetime to each other no matter what hurdles are faced. But for Pitt, he seems to think a lifetime of partnership is nearly impossible. 

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Pitt reveals, “I’ll tell you what I despise: this two-becomes-one thing where you lose your individuality. We don’t cage each other with this pressure of happily ever after. You figure it out as you go along. We feel it out, rather than setting policies and rules.” Pitt continues, saying that it isn’t human nature to be with someone for eternity. He says, “Jen and I always made a pact; that we’ll see where this thing is going. I’m not sure it really is in our nature to be with someone for the rest of our lives, just because you made this pact.”

Unfortunately for Aniston, she thinks the whole point of marriage is to try and be together for a lifetime. In her interview with Vanity Fair, the actress says, “What’s fantastic about marriage is getting through those ebbs and flows with the same person, and looking across the room and saying, ‘I’m still here. And I still love you.’ You re-meet, reconnect. You have marriages within marriages within marriages. That’s what I love about marriage.”

She continues. “That’s what I want in a marriage,” Aniston says. “It’s unfortunate, but we live in a very disposable society. Those moments where it looks like ‘Uh-oh, this isn’t working!’—those are the most important, transformative moments. Most couples draw up divorce papers when they’re missing out on an amazing moment of deepening and enlightenment and connection.”

Jennifer Aniston refuses to be defined by her relationships

Jennifer Aniston as Rachel Green
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According to the Friends star, there is so much more to her than the media portrays. The actress had a lot of trouble adjusting to her breakup with Pitt, mainly due to the constant press surrounding their split. For Aniston, she actively avoided the media to have some peace of mind.

 She tells Vanity Fair, “I would much rather everyone move on. This relationship does not define me. I am not defined by the part they’re making me play in the triangle. It’s maddening to me. But I had a mom who was very angry about her divorce and made shots, and I don’t want to play that out. If people are frustrated that I don’t want to do that, I’m sorry. I’m figuring this out as I go along. This is my first time at this particular picnic.”

Jennifer Aniston still feels ‘lucky’ for her relationship with Brad Pitt

Despite all the pain and heartache the Just Go With It actress faced, she still feels fortunate to have experienced the relationship she had with Pitt. She tells Vanity Fair that she will always be grateful for the time the actors shared and that she was able to learn and gain so much from that relationship. There are no hard feelings, and as of today, Aniston and Pitt are reportedly friends.