The Real Reason Hailey Bieber Says Marriage Is ‘Very Hard’

Justin and Hailey Bieber’s relationship is usually followed by the words, “whirlwind romance.” And while that is partly true (the two dated for a month before The Biebs popped the question), Mr. and Mrs. Bieber share a long history together.

Nearly five months into their marriage, Justin and Hailey Bieber recently opened up to Vogue for a cover story about their relationship and the difficulties they’ve already had as Mr. and Mrs. Find out why Hailey Bieber says marriage is “very hard,” ahead.

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Justin and Hailey Bieber have a complicated dating history. The two first met in 2009 at the Today show (Hailey received tickets from her uncle, Alec Baldwin). Hailey told Vogue for the first few years of their now decade-long friends there was “a weird age gap.” Then, in 2011, 14-year-old Hailey joined her heartthrob friend on the red carpet for the premiere of Bieber’s Never Say Never documentary.

The two continued to stay close friends, often traveling with friends and even sitting together at Hillsong Church, where the two attend service. Then, in 2016, Justin Bieber posted a photo of him and Hailey locking lips and thus began their on-again-off-again relationship.

Around the same time, Bieber told GQ how he felt about his now wife (and even looked to the future). “[Hailey is] someone I really love. We spend a lot of time together,” he noted. “I already have a lot that I have to commit to. A lot of responsibilities. I don’t want to feel like the girl I love is an added responsibility,” he continued. “What is Hailey ends up being the girl I’m gonna marry, right? If I rush into anything, if I damage her, then it’s always gonna be damaged.”

As for why they initially broke up? They hinted at betrayal in their Vogue interview. But, they eventually found their way back to each other in 2018. Last June, the two ran into each other while attending a conference in Miami hosted by Vous Church pastor Rich Wilkerson Jr. “The common denominator, I promise you, is always church,” Hailey told Vogue. “By then we were past the drama. I just gave him a hug. By the end of the conference, he was like, ‘We’re not going to be friends.’ I was like, ‘We’re not?’” About a month after that, Justin asked Hailey for her hand in marriage.

Hailey says marriage is ‘very hard’  

Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin
Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin | Getty Images/Nicholas Hunt

Mrs. Bieber might call Justin her “best friend” but she admits that being married — especially at such a young age — is no easy feat. “The thing is, marriage is very hard,” she told Vogue. “That is the sentence you should lead with. It’s really effing hard.”

As with most couples, the two admit that they struggle with their difference in personality and behavior. “One of the big things for me is trusting myself,” Justin notes. “I’ve made some bad decisions personally, and in relationships. Those mistakes have affected my confidence in my judgment. It’s been difficult for me even to trust Hailey. We’ve been working through stuff. And it’s great, right?” he added while turning to his new wife for confirmation.

The two also have found navigating their emotions to be a difficult task — especially since Justin is more “emotionally unstable” (as he explains). “He’ll say ‘I feel,’ and I’ll say, ‘I think.’ I have to really dive deep and struggle to be in touch with my emotions. He gets there immediately,” Hailey explains. “It’s been really difficult to get her to say what she feels,” Justin confirms while discussing their current efforts to practice healthy communication.

Despite their challenges in this new season of life, Justin and Hailey Bieber share a deep love for each other and look forward to learning and growing together. They married in a New York City courthouse last year and are in the midst of planning a celebration of marriage with their friends and family.

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