‘Killing Eve’ Star Sandra Oh Reveals Her Thoughts About Having Kids
From the side of those who’ve seen firsthand the bias of women in showbiz, it’s gratifying to see someone like Sandra Oh star in an A-list TV show and be rewarded in the process. At the age of 47, Oh is already past the age many women were once able to land a starring role in a hot TV series or lead in a movie.
Even if she’s overcome the stereotype of older actresses not being valuable, she’s still stuck in another problem related to women livelihoods. This is the expectation that all females in their 20s or 30s are expected to have kids.
Oh recently shared her thoughts on the matter to the media, giving another view of women not being free yet from certain obligations.
Sandra Oh had plans to have kids, but her career came first
According to a recent interview with Marie Claire, Oh has been perpetually private about her love life. She’s had a serious boyfriend for a while, the mag says, though she doesn’t reveal who it is. Starting in 2003, she married the noted filmmaker Alexander Payne, but they were together only a few years before divorcing.
In the interview, Oh says she thought about having kids in her late 30s or by 40. This didn’t happen due to the divorce from Payne and being in the middle of showbiz chaos.
Let’s back up and remember she was acting on two TV shows during this period, not including being a constant presence as a character actor in dozens of films. One of those was Payne’s Oscar-winning Sideways.
Doing shows like Arliss for seven seasons, then going right into Grey’s Anatomy for an additional 10 would have meant far too much if having kids.
Is Oh another victim of shaming women for not having children before 40?
The fact that Oh had to address the kids issue in the Marie Claire interview seems to be proof she’s been called out by members of the media or her own family for not having kids by a specific age.
We’re seeing far too much of this as a holdover to when women were expected to capitulate to their husbands to have offspring.
How refreshing is it to see a woman like Oh find happiness without being forced into doing something that could cause life chaos? Besides, she notes in her interview she’s been very happy being an aunt to other children in her family. Having a fulfilling family life while leaving freedom to pursue her career goals was clearly the best decision she ever made.
Whether she can change the perception of what women should accomplish before 40 is another thing. With so many advancements for actresses of Oh’s caliber, it’s still strange the idea of not having kids by your 20s continues to bring shame.
She may pave the way for women to think of career first by 40
Oh frequently says in interviews her parents are dissatisfied with her for not starting a family earlier. Maybe this is an Asian tradition, yet it’s become an expectation in many families here in America.
Concern is always there about our population going down from women deciding not to have kids. Stats certainly show this decision by women is on the rise in recent years.
Don’t worry about not having enough people in America to keep the baby population going. For busy women in the field of acting, it’s a different story, despite being made to think they can balance both.
Life is already challenging enough than to force an actress to have kids at the detriment to their careers. More than a few actresses having kids had to take time off and had trouble restarting their acting careers as a result. Oh sets a path for actresses to stay vibrant into their mid-40s, including finding fulfillment with children through outlying family or adoption.