After Having a Miscarriage, Lauren Swanson Still Had the Most Gracious Thing to Say About Jessa Duggar’s Pregnancy

Jessa Duggar announced back in January that she and husband Ben Seewald are expecting their third child together. The couple already has two toddler sons, Spurgeon and Henry, and now they’re gearing up to welcome a new member to the family. But Duggar’s sister-in-law Lauren Swanson, who is married to Josiah Duggar, had something incredibly heartwarming to say to Duggar, despite losing her own baby during her first trimester.

Jessa Duggar, Ben Seewald, and their children
Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald are expecting their third child. | Jessa Seewald via Instagram | instagram.com/p/BsbI825APaH/

Lauren Swanson had a miscarriage during her first pregnancy

Josiah Duggar and Lauren Swanson were married back in June 2018. And a few months later the couple was thrilled to find out they were expecting their first child in late spring 2019. However, the couple sadly learned that Swanson had lost the baby — it was their first pregnancy, and things quickly went from joy to sorrow. “[Swanson] started feeling sick and started noticing some different things,” Josiah Duggar told People, referring to when they learned of the miscarriage. But despite losing the baby, the couple has stayed strong and is now supporting their sister Jessa Duggar as she gets ready to welcome her third child.

Duggar recently revealed that she and Swanson had the exact same due date

Jessa Duggar has been celebrating her baby news on Instagram. She shared a family portrait with her husband and two sons to announce that they were expecting in late spring. She then posted a photo of the baby’s sonogram alongside the sonograms of her two sons and said all three of them would have the same nose. But then, on her 25-week baby post, she wrote a heartfelt message where she revealed that she and Swanson would have had the exact same due date. She referred to pregnancy as “such a precious gift, and definitely not something I take for granted.”

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#25weeks Pregnancy— such a precious gift, and definitely not something I take for granted. As we look forward to meeting our baby, we’re also feeling an exceptional amount of grief over my brother Josiah and sister-in-law Lauren’s loss of their baby. Lauren and I shared the exact same due date. We have cried so many tears, both together and apart. My heart aches for them. I weep when I think of how difficult it must be for her to see me pregnant in the very stages where she would’ve been— right up through the baby’s due date. And yet, even in a flood of emotions, there are perplexities of the human heart that may cause us to want to clam up or remain silent through such a trial. Because of this, many people feel like they’re walking this road alone. It is true that speaking for the sake of filling silence is not needful and is often hurtful. I’ve watched Lauren converse with people who have been unknowingly insensitive, and I am amazed by her graciousness. I’ve heard some try to give reasons or explanations, not realizing that their unsolicited opinions might be very painful, like salt to a wound. One might never know the tears you cry at night as a result of their words flowing back through your head. Often times, “I love you and I’m praying for you” along with a hug are quite sufficient. We do not need to fill every silence with words. But at the same time, conversations of lost dreams should never feel suppressed. Silence can stifle healing, but a carefully chosen word may work to help bring life and healing to the soul. We must all reinforce the fact that emotions over a life lost are not something to be resisted. They’re not wrong, and you should never think that for a moment. If you’ve lost a child, know this— YOU ARE A MAMA, and you will never cease to think about and cherish the life you carried… **swipe left to read more**

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Despite the miscarriage, Swanson said something incredibly heartfelt to Duggar

Although Swanson went through a lot when she lost the baby, she has kept her head up and been there for her sister in law. In Duggar’s emotional Instagram photo, she wrote that despite what happened to Swanson, Swanson still said, “Jess if you ever feel too sick or tired and need some help do not hesitate to call. I would be more than happy to make a meal, watch the boys, etc. I know when pregnant you get so tired and feel sick and don’t feel up to doing things you normally are fine doing.” Duggar praised Swanson’s grace and thoughtfulness in dealing with the situation.

The Duggars have always believed God will give them as many children as they’re supposed to have

The Duggars turn to God in every time — but especially during tragedy. The Duggars have often said that they will gladly take however many children God has planned for them, which is also why they don’t believe in birth control or abortion. Swanson’s miscarriage may not be something she understands, but she and her husband do feel that the time for them to have a child will come when God believes it’s right. For now, they’re excited for their sister to welcome the newest member of her family.

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