‘Married at First Sight’: Alum Jamie Otis Reveals Why She Got Two Abortions

For the last few months, the nation has been torn as Georgia, Kentucky, Ohio, Utah, and Arkansas have all passed what have been called “heartbeat bills.” These bills make it illegal to have an abortion once a fetal heartbeat or embryo can be detected, which usually happens within the first six weeks of pregnancy.

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I’ve been keeping a shameful secret. The only place I had the guts to share about it was in my book, Wifey 101. And boy, did I get backlash. • Its very controversial. Some women who read my book came right here to my page to spew the most hurtful words at me. They’ve called me all sorts of cruel names. I hate to admit it, but I caved to their hatred. I just couldn’t cope with it all, so I kept quiet about my truth. But I just cannot continue to sit in silence while women’s fundamental human rights are being taken away. I am speaking up for HER. • I had an abortion. Twice. Is it something I’m proud of? Heck no! No one *wants* an abortion. It has left the most painful hole in my heart. But do I think women should be stripped of their right to choose? Absolutely not. • I’m speaking up for the little girl who was raped. She’s been through enough pain. She needs to know her voice DOES matter. For the woman who has a medical condition and will die if she carries. This woman should be allowed to decide what’s best for her. And for the young adult who is just like I was…I am speaking up for YOU. • You’re a teenager raising your 3 younger siblings all alone while your mom is off on drug binges. You’re trying to keep food on the table, heat & lights on in the house, AND put yourself through college while working as a waitress. You’re not evil if you want to break the cycle of welfare, drug addiction, & raising fatherless children. You’re not a monster if you want to raise children in a loving, stable, healthy environment. • There *is* a shade of grey. I dont believe in aborting at every stage of pregnancy. What I do believe in is EDUCATION AND PREVENTION. • We can’t hate on women and stifle their voices and their needs – especially if we haven’t walked in their shoes. Instead, let’s focus on education in order to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Let’s lift victims up in support and let them know they matter & their voice is heard and respected. • Ladies, no matter what our belief is-we’ve got to support one another. Love is the only way we can truly make change in this world…we cannot standby & let men take away our fundamental human rights.#womensrights

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This has been so controversial because most women don’t even realize that they are pregnant until much later. On top of this, Alabama recently passed a bill that bans all abortions, regardless of if the baby was conceived via rape or incest.

These bills have caused celebrities to come out with their own abortion stories. The #YouKnowMe movement, started by actress Busy Phillipps, has led a number of women to share their experiences to decrease the stigma around abortions.

Married at First Sight’s Jamie Otis is one of the latest women to open up about the topic.

Otis was almost aborted

Over the course of her time on Married at First Sight and afterward, Otis has always been open about her childhood and how rough it was. She recently told People that her mom considered aborting her.

“Ever since I was little, my mom told me she almost aborted me,” she told the outlet. “I know that sounds a little hypocritical coming from me, but with that being said, my mom had a total of five children—none of whom she could provide for. I don’t mean this to be negative towards my mom. It’s just a fact. My mom was sexually abused by a relative and beaten to a bloody pulp so many times by boyfriends. I had no idea who my father was. My siblings and I would wake up with no heat, no electricity and no food half the time because my mom couldn’t afford us all.”

Otis’ first abortion

Growing up, Otis’ mother left her and her siblings to fend for themselves and during that time, Otis became pregnant.

“I ended up getting pregnant at just 18 years old by the first guy I ever had sex with. I actually went to a center to get birth control, and that’s how I found out I was pregnant. The nurse said, ‘Oh, you have options. There’s abortion.’ I literally stopped listening to her because in my family, you don’t have abortions under any circumstances. I was in such a daze that I put on my shoes and just ran out of the building. I met my boyfriend outside and told him, ‘Oh my God, we’re pregnant. I can’t believe it. How did this happen? What am I going to do? My mom’s gone. I have nothing.'”

“My mom had gotten pregnant and dropped out of high school, had a baby, chose to be with abusive men and live on welfare. My oldest sister— who I’m so proud to say has since broken the cycle—also dropped out of high school when she got pregnant with an abusive man. Right then and there, I realized I was in this cycle too. I was in college and knew I wouldn’t be able to finish my education, and was with a man who didn’t really respect or love me.”

Otis chose to abort the child, feeling like she couldn’t give it the life it deserved.

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I was 19 years old & a freshman in college when I first celebrated “Mother’s day” I was raising my 3 younger siblings in a tiny little trailer. We didn’t have *any* money, but they surprised me with a little home-made dinner & it was the absolute best!☺️ • The first time I celebrated “for real” I was in my first trimester with our first pregnancy. I woke up to the sweeeetest card & a manicure/pedicure gift for me AND my sis since she was visiting. (@doughehner THE best for including her!) The card brought me to tears. He had written how excited he was to become a daddy and how he could see the toll pregnancy was taking on me (I was pretty sick with this pregnancy). He ended it with “I can’t wait to meet our baby boy and see you as a mother. You’re going to be the best mommy!” … then only a few short months later we did meet him. I delivered him at 17 weeks and he immediately went to dance with the angels in heaven. We will never know his laugh or see him smile. Our hearts were ripped out of our chest. My sweet angel baby, Johnathan Edward, made me a “real” mommy for the first time. Although I only held him in my arms for a few short hours, I’ve carried him in my heart every.single.day since then. • When I got pregnant for this beauty I was SCARED SCARED SCARED. I wasn’t sick while pregnant with her. The pregnancy was entirely different than with Johnathan. It was easy & uneventful. But there wasn’t a moment that went by that I didn’t fear I’d lose her. Then on August 22, 2017 she came into the world calm & content. She was such a happy little nugget. Holding her in my arms while looking down to see her just simply *breathe* made my heart whole again. She has been the absolute BEST thing that has ever happened to me. I am beyond *thankful* I have her & I know exactly how blessed I am! • I know this is a long post, but shows that there are so many types of mamas out there. Some may not have their children to hold. Others have children they’re raising who are way too old for her to possibly have birthed. I never felt like a “real” mama until my…(continue reading in the comments, I learned that trick from @hilaryduff )

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Otis’ second abortion

Later, while in nursing school, the reality star got pregnant again.

“I don’t even want to admit that it happened twice, but here I am sharing my story so other women can feel that they aren’t alone,” she told People. “Abortion was so frowned upon in my family, but I think even my mom would vouch for this today: We should be able to have the choice in hopes of breaking the cycle. My mom went on to live a life that was so destructive not only for herself but for every single child she brought into this world that the cycle continued with my sister until she was able to pick up the pieces of her life and change it. “

What does Otis want other women to know?

After having both of the abortions, Otis was extremely ashamed, but she felt it was finally time to share her story.

“You can throw stones at me if you want, but I just think of a young woman who has no one to turn to. I wish someone had said to me back then that I’m not evil. I felt like a terrible, selfish human being and sometimes I still do. I don’t want to admit that out loud, but it’s just a hard fact.”