Meghan Markle and Prince Harry: Will the Birth of Baby Archie Cool Down Their Relationship?
One thing watchers of the British royal family have noticed is that Meghan Markle and Prince Harry always look so much in love. They’re often seen holding hands and looking adoringly at each other. Now that baby Archie is here, will that change? Will their relationship cool down now that they must focus on being parents?
The Cheat Sheet spoke with relationship expert April Masini to get her advice on how to make sure your relationship doesn’t suffer once a new baby arrives. She also gives her advice for new parents Meghan and Harry.
The Cheat Sheet: Prince William joked about Meghan and Harry joining the “sleep deprivation society that is parenting.” What can couples do to make sure the irritability that comes along with sleep deprivation doesn’t lead to unnecessary arguments?
Make sure that at least one person is sleeping (and preferably, two). Two sleep-deprived parents is going to lead to more fighting than when one has sleep and resources to be empathetic. Split up for sleep vacations — one person needs to sleep in the other room, the living room, a room that is far away enough from a night-time crying baby to get some sleep and feel refreshed. Switch off, so you both get this opportunity.
Remember it takes two to fight, and one to be overly empathetic. As long as one of you is being overly generous with compliments, rationalizations, gifts, and appreciation, the fights will be diluted. It’s hard to avoid sleep deprivation altogether, but as long as one of you doesn’t engage the other and take the bait, the fighting will be quelled.
Get help. There are ways to get some relief. You can hire a night nurse or employ mothers, siblings, or friends to do a night shift so you can get some sleep. Even if they show up at midnight and stay until 6 a.m., this is going to give you a break.
The Cheat Sheet: What advice do you have for Meghan Markle and Prince Harry now that they’re new parents?
April Masini: They seem to have this one on lock! I think that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex are very well prepared for what may come, and they’ve made some non-traditional arrangements already to bolster their relationship and their new family. It seems that Meghan Markle has put her difficult relationships with her father and step-siblings on ice. She and her husband have prioritized relationships with supportive people, and during this delicate time, are nurturing those relationships and not responding to tough ones.
They have employed boundaries and kept a lot of the birth and their first few days as a family private. This use of boundaries has helped them feel that they are doing what’s right for them and their baby. Any advice I would have would be to use all those relatives and royal resources to help support the relationship between the parents. Let them care for the baby so the Sussex parents can have time alone on a regular basis. Turn off social media for a while and enjoy this precious time. And prioritize the relationship between the two adults in the family because without that, everything else crumbles and causes chaotic regrouping.
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