Meghan Markle Said She Doesn’t Want You to ‘Love’ Her

When Meghan Markle revealed in October that she was not “OK” amid widespread backlash from British tabloids, many people did not feel bad for her. 

People like Wendy Williams and Piers Morgan were among the critics, saying that Markle was merely lying to get sympathy. But that’s the thing — the duchess doesn’t want people to “love” her. In a new interview, Markle revealed the true intention behind her comments, making it clear that she’s not seeking affection.

Meghan Markle at Wimbledon
Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex, sitting in the crowd at Wimbledon 2019 |Photo by Karwai Tang/Getty Images

Inside Markle’s latest interview

The duchess opened up to The Telegraph‘s Bryony Gordon in an interview published on Nov. 1. She gave the interview at the launch of the second Luminary Bakery, which is a shop that serves the “best cakes in the capital” and supports disadvantaged women.

The duchess apparently told Gordon that she isn’t looking for any support whatsoever. “She told me that she didn’t want people to love her—she just wanted them to be able to hear her,” Gordon wrote.

Markle reportedly went on to say that she really wants people to get to know her and vice versa.

“One of the things I have realized since being here is that people have an expectation when I’m coming somewhere, so I’m like, let’s just be really relaxed, keep everyone nice and chilled, because at the end of the day we’re all just women. We all have a story to tell, and I feel honored that I am getting to hear yours,” Markle said in a speech at the shop.

A recap of Markle’s previous comments

In the ITV documentary Harry & Meghan: An African Journey, which aired in the United Kingdom on Oct. 20 and in the United States on Oct. 23, Markle admitted that she had been struggling under intense scrutiny as a new mom.

(Prince Harry made similar claims. He said that the backlash brought back the trauma of the 1997 death of his mother, Princess Diana.)

She said that, though she was warned about it ahead of her wedding to Prince Harry, she had no idea it would be so bad. After the interviewer asked if she was OK, the duchess started tearing up.

“Thank you for asking because not many people have asked if I’m okay, but it’s a very real thing to be going through behind the scenes,” Markle told the interviewer, fighting back tears.

She continued, “I really tried to adopt this British sensibility of a ‘stiff upper lip.’ I really tried, but I think that what that does internally is probably really damaging.”

“I never thought that this would be easy, but I thought it would be fair. And that’s the part that’s really hard to reconcile,” Markle added.

According to Gordon, Markle became just as emotional when he asked how she was doing. He added, “If I have learnt anything about Meghan in the time I have known her, it is that she is a doer, not a wallower. She lives in the solution, not the problem.”