Paul Wesley Says Reports He and Nina Dobrev Hated Each Other Are Click Bait

Nina Dobrev made Vampire Diaries headlines again this year when she went on the Directionally Challenged podcast and said she and her costar, Paul Wesley, despised each other when the show began. “Paul and I didn’t get along at the beginning of the show,” Dobrev said. “I respected Paul Wesley. I didn’t like Paul Wesley. We despised each other so much that it read as love but… We really just didn’t get along the first five months of shooting.”

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Actor Paul Wesley visits Build Series to discuss the CBS All Access show “Tell Me a Story’ | Gary Gershoff/Getty Images

Wesley had a chance to speak for himself today. He was on a Television Critics Association panel for his CBS All Access show Tell Me a Story. When reporters asked his reaction to Dobrev’s comments, he explained. 

Why reports of Nina Dobrev and Paul Wesley’s feud are misleading

Wesley understands that Dobrev sharing that story makes juicy new headlines. He also thinks Dobrev’s comments were taken a little out of context.

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Paul Wesley and Carrie-Anne Moss of “Tell Me A Story” | Amy Sussman/Getty Images

“First of all, Nina’s a dear friend of mine,” Wesley said. “I text with her at least once a week. We talk all the time. We hang out all the time, so I think it was a little click-baity to be honest with you because we’re such good friends.”

Paul Wesley confirms he didn’t get along with Nina Dobrev for a while

That part of the story is true. In fact, Wesley said it took much longer than two years for them to smooth things over.

“I think the point that Nina was making and I’ll totally back her up on this is that we totally clashed the first couple years in terms of just getting on each other’s nerves, and then developed this wonderful friendship,” Wesley said. “It’s like this nice happy ending.”

The Paul Wesley/Nina Dobrev feud is ultimately a positive story

Wesley thinks we shouldn’t focus on how they didn’t get along at first. Focus on how they both grew from that.

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Actor Paul Wesley visits Build Series to discuss the CBS All Access show “Tell Me a Story’ | Gary Gershoff/Getty Images

“I think sometimes when people work together nonstop, [do] press nonstop for years and years on end, you don’t appreciate the person that’s in front of you,” Wesley said. “You’re exhausted and tired. I think now, it’s such a nice story because we’re such good friends now. It was a cool lesson to learn. The people you maybe don’t get along with in the beginning later surprise you. I think a lot of my friendships are like that.”

What finally made Paul Wesley and Nina Dobrev get along

There was no magic bullet or intensive mediation process. Ultimately, Dobrev and Wesley’s reconciliation was a simple fact of life.

“Just growing up,” Wesley said. “We were both kids [at the beginning]. She couldn’t even legally drink. I was like 24, 25. We were both on this big show. It’s just kids. It’s like high school. It’s like being at summer camp or something.” 

That said, they’re not going to get ‘The Vampire Diaries’ back together

The Vampire Diaries had a happy ending for Wesley and Dobrev, though not necessarily for his character Stefan. Wesley rules out any reunion or reboot though.

“I have to be honest with you, I never see that happening,” Wesley said. “I don’t think it’ll ever happen. Can you imagine in 10, 15 years, we’re so old looking and Ian Somerhalder comes out and it’s like oh gosh. No, vampires have eternal youth. That is unfortunately not the case with us. I’m sure everyone who’s on a popular show gets asked at one point or another but I can’t fathom that ever happening, fortunately.” 

Paul Wesley and Carrie-Anne Moss
Paul Wesley and Carrie-Anne Moss of “Tell Me A Story” | Amy Sussman/Getty Images

They can make Michael Douglas, Michelle Pfeiffer and Samuel L. Jackson young again in Marvel movies. They made Robert Downey, Jr. 15 in Captain America: Civil War. They could de-age the Salvatore brothers for a new Vampire Diaries.

“If we need to special effects my face, that’s when I know I need to quit my career,” Wesley laughed.