Prince Harry and Meghan Markle Were ‘Shocked at How Painful’ Miscarriage Was
Miscarriage is a devastating experience for countless women every year, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex spoke out about her own experience with the personal tragedy. The Duchess of Sussex and Prince Harry grieved the loss of their second child for months before she came forward with her story.
Meghan Markle has been honest about her personal tragedy
Meghan opened up about her difficult miscarriage in a November 2020 op-ed for The New York Times. The day began just like any other day for the Duchess of Sussex. After changing her baby Archie’s diaper, she felt a sharp pain in her abdomen and feared that her worst nightmare was coming true.
“I dropped to the floor with [Archie] in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right,” she recounted. “I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”
“Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few,” Meghan added, acknowledging that she knew she wasn’t alone.
Meghan Markle spent months grieving in private
Meghan projected strength with her New York Times piece while acknowledging that we’re all a work in progress and what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. But the months between when she suffered the traumatic event in July and went public with her story in November were an extremely difficult time for her and Harry.
A source close to the couple told People magazine that they had to spend time sitting with their loss before Meghan felt comfortable speaking about it publicly. She wanted to share her story to help the countless people who’ve dealt with pregnancy loss.
“They kept their miscarriage private for months because it was very painful and not anything that they knew if they would ever want to share,” the source said. “They both seemed shocked at how painful it was. Meghan was ready to share now because so many women go through the same thing in silence.”
Meghan Markle isn’t alone in the royal family
Royal norms dictate that private pain should remain just that — private — and that personal issues that royals face should be kept away from the public. Meghan bucked this tradition with her op-ed, but she’s not the first British royal to talk about their miscarriage.
Zara Tindall, Princess Anne’s daughter and Queen Elizabeth II’s granddaughter, has lost two pregnancies in just the past few years. Tindall and her brother Peter Phillips spoke about Meghan and more in an interview with The Times newspaper in the UK.
“I had a miscarriage in 2016 and afterwards loads of people wrote to me and [husband] Mike to say they’d been through the same thing,” Tindall recalled. “In our case, it was something that was really rare; it was nature saying, ‘This one’s not right.’ For me, the worst bit was that we had to tell everyone — everyone knew.”
“I then had another miscarriage really early on,” she continued. “You need to go through a period where you don’t talk about it because it’s too raw but, as with everything, time’s a great healer.”