Prince Harry ‘Felt Like a Spare Wheel’ In William and Kate’s Royal Family, Expert Claims
Before Prince Harry met Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, he was often seen attending royal engagements alongside his brother and sister-in-law, Prince William and Kate, Duchess of Cambridge. Harry was essentially the third member of their group, and while fans loved to see the close relationship between the three, Harry and Meghan’s new biography suggests he constantly felt like an outcast.
Prince Harry might have been the real reason he and Meghan Markle left the family
Despite spending more than three decades as an official member of the royal family, the prince never took well to the role. He and William, who grew closer due to their mother’s death, were actually quite different, with William having the better grasp on his royal future. Harry revealed later in life that he never wanted to be a part of such an intense institution; the prince said in 2017 that he always wished to be “something other” than the son of a future king.
When Harry met Meghan, and the two decided royal life wasn’t for them, the public immediately thought that it was because the duchess didn’t want to be a royal. However, information about Harry and Meghan’s life has started to unfold — and it suggests Harry was behind the couple’s departure.
Harry reportedly felt like a ‘spare wheel’ in his life with William and Kate
Harry is several years younger than William, and when William began dating Kate back in 2002, Harry instantly grew to like her. Over the years, the three of them became close, with Harry once referring to Kate as the sister he’d never had. Though Harry did date (he was in a relationship with Chelsy Davy for years), he never seriously brought another woman into the family and often attended royal engagements alongside Kate and William.
According to royal expert Katie Nicholl, Harry wasn’t thrilled with spending his life in the shadows of his brother and sister-in-law. Nicholl told Entertainment Tonight that Harry and Meghan’s new book, “Finding Freedom: Harry and Meghan and the Making of A Modern Family,” seems to suggest Harry always felt out of place.
“One of the themes that seems to be recurrent in Finding Freedom is that Harry felt very much like a spare wheel,” Nicholl said. “While the media loved this idea of a royal threesome, for Harry, he very much felt like a spare wheel… I even heard him complaining that he felt like the gooseberry, the third one along at the date.” Nicholl said Harry “never quite fitted in” — while he loved William and Kate, he wanted his own life.
William and Kate tried to make Harry feel welcome
Although the three got along well, there was no denying that William and Kate were the future of the monarchy, and Harry was not. “While Kate and William went out of their way to make sure Harry felt like a part of this team, this trio, Harry always wanted to be his own person,” Nicholl added.
In 2016, when Harry met Meghan, he might have seen her as not only the love of his life but also someone he could start an entirely new kind of life with. One that did not require living under an umbrella of royal rules.