‘Real Housewives of Orange County’ Emily Simpson Confronts Her Husband on Feelings of Resentment

Emily Simpson of Real Housewives of Orange County has been open on some of her marital struggles with husband Shane. The couple recently had a difficult conversation on the September 10 episode, publicly airing some grievances that are under contention.

“Real Housewives of Orange County’s” Emily Simpson | Charles Sykes/Bravo/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images

Simpson’s recent anxiety

Last month, Simpson shared with friend and co-star Gina Kirschenheiter on the pressure she’s feeling, which Kirchenheiter concluded was caused by Shane. “Emily can’t pinpoint exactly what’s the issue with her and I think that maybe it’s because she doesn’t really want to,” Kirchenheiter said in the August 27 episode. “I think maybe there’s something going on with Shane.”

In the same episode, Simpson confided in Kirschenheiter the anxiety that she was experiencing due to her responsibilities as a wife, mother, and professional lawyer“I just feel so overwhelmed and I feel so much anxiety that I just feel like, every little thing that happens, I can’t handle it. I feel like I barely get through each thing I’m supposed to do. I feel like I’m barely being a good mom, I’m barely being a good wife, I’m barely being a good attorney. I’m just hanging on in each aspect of my life,” Simpson said to Kirchenheiter, according to People. “ I’m having an anxiety attack right now. I feel like I can’t breathe. I just feel lost right now. I’m just really overwhelmed and I’m really sad right now and I’m kind of acting like a crazy person and I don’t know why.”

A tough confrontation with Shane

The couple, who are parents to daughter Annabelle, 6, and twin sons Luke and Keller, 4, spoke on this week’s episode about their issues with communication. Simpson brought up Shane’s time away while studying for the bar exam, when he had no contact with her for 10 days leading up to the big test.

“I feel very upset and resentful towards you. And I know you feel upset and resentful towards me,” Simpson told her husband, as reported by People. “We’re not good at communicating. We didn’t talk at all while you were taking the bar exam and then you came home and then we really didn’t talk at all.”

Shane voiced his disagreement. “We talked a little bit, we didn’t talk very much. I was focused,” he said, reminding her, “You texted me nasty things.”

Simpson apologized, telling Shane, “I didn’t want you to not pass the bar and then say, ‘Well, you drove me crazy and you texted me all the time.’ So I just left you alone.” She suggested they seek counseling to work on their communication skills, saying, “I have trouble with the way that you talk to me sometimes. I don’t like the condescending tone. It’s sarcasm all the time. I get tired of being the butt of all your jokes sometimes.”

Shane’s response was not what Simpson had hoped it would be. “Now, is this a bashing session on Shane? Calm down,” he said. To the audience, Shane shared that he felt his wife was embellishing. “I honestly don’t believe I’m sarcastic to the degree that Emily says I am. Her choice in using the word sarcasm is just a blanket excuse to cover everything. And sometimes it’s satire. You know what satire is? It’s joking at the expense of others, so it’s not sarcasm,” he said, laughing.

The conversation concluded with Simpson asking her husband, “Tell me you love me.” Shane replied with a joke, saying “I love me.” Probably not the best timing.

A happy anniversary

The couple celebrated their tenth wedding anniversary this past March. Simpson posted a loving message to her husband, sounding like their relationship was rock solid. “Even after a decade together, we are still committed to each other, and committed to raising five kids (3 together and my two step-daughters) with heaps of love and laughter and the very best of parenting intentions to guide them to become kind, compassionate, inspiring and educated humans,” Simpson wrote.

The Real Housewives of Orange County star complimented Shane’s parenting and dedication to their relationship. “Thank you Mr. Simpson for always putting me and our family first after all these years together 😘😘,” Simpson wrote. “Your integrity, commitment to family and hands on approach to parenting our children is always to be commended!! Here’s to another 10 years!”

Before this season premiered, Simpson shared a little insight on the status of their marriage to Bravo TV’s Daily Dish. “There’s up and there’s downs. That’s what marriage is all about,” Simpson said. “At the end of the day, we’re committed, and we’ll make it work.”

Fans will have to stay tuned to Real Housewives of Orange County to see how things work out for the couple.