Relationship Advice: Big Bang Theory’s Mayim Bialik Shares How to Survive a Holiday Breakup
Big Bang Theory actress Mayim Bialik posted on her website, Grok Nation, that she is newly single. She says it’s tough for her because of the timing. “There is rarely good timing for a break up. But most certainly, the worst time is now. In case he is reading this, I’m just meh with this timing. Because say what you will, the holidays are a time to not be recently broken up. I know this much is true,” she wrote on her blog.
Bialik goes on to share some relationship advice with her readers. Here are the tips Bialik shared on her blog for how to survive a holiday breakup.
Bialik says exercise is a great way to get those endorphins pumping and get your mind off the pain of a fresh breakup. She even says it’s OK to walk while you’re crying.
Exercise helps elevate happy chemicals in your brain, and trust you/me, you’re gonna need it. Walk your neighborhood. Force yourself. Walk while weeping—I’ve done it. Nothing to be ashamed of. Move your body.
Don’t listen to sad music
Is your first instinct to listen to the saddest songs you can find? Don’t relive the breakup by listening to music that reminds you of your ex or of the future you could have had. Bialik said she made this mistake the last time she and her significant other broke things off.
I put myself on a moratorium of sad music. When we broke up the last time (two years ago), I listened to so much Adele that my children would weep when they heard the music blaring; but not from sadness, from misery at hearing Adele AGAIN. I would listen and cry and cry and cry, and I decided this time around to not feed that kind of crying. Organic crying from just being in my feelings feels like enough this time; I don’t need to force myself to get to that place. I’m getting there plenty on my own. “Say You Won’t Let Go” by James Arthur needs to be avoided like the plague. Because that song is just too much of everything.
Get some perspective
The actress reminds her readers to take a step back and remember the world is not ending because you’re not in a relationship anymore. You might have lost someone you care about, but things will get better, says Bialik.
Perspective, people. Find it. Whatever it looks like for you. There are people in tragic circumstances right now. All over the world, people are suffering and in need. We can get through this season alone. I can even be alone for a long time if that’s my path. I have many other things to work on, work for and work toward. I am one speck of the universe and I can get help when I am in need. If you are not getting support from compassionate ears and hearts, seek the assistance of a therapist, school or work counselor or social worker, or go online and find help in your area. But also remember to be grateful for blessings, even if they are small. There is light at the end of this.
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