‘RHOA’ Star Kandi Burruss Says Family Judged Her for Having Baby Via Surrogate

Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker have been very open about their journey to have a second baby. The Real Housewives of Atlanta couple first walked viewers through the birth of their first child together, Ace, and later decided they wanted to add to their blended family. They welcomed daughter Blaze one month ago via surrogate and are over the moon about the little girl. But the road to get there was full of questions.

Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker
‘RHOA’ couple Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker | Leon Bennett/FilmMagic/Getty Images

Burruss and Tucker first revealed surrogacy plans last year

The pair discussed their fertility struggles and search for a surrogate with Us Weekly in 2018. Burruss told the outlet they’d found someone to carry the baby, but she initially was nervous and scared about the idea as they didn’t know anyone in their circle who’d been through it.

“Like, I don’t have anybody who can tell me [about it]. When we were going through the IVF process, I did have a couple of friends who had done it, so, you know, I could talk to them, but this is a situation where I don’t have anybody I can talk to,” she said.

Burruss also shared that they had two female embryos left from when they had their son Ace. Their search for a surrogate led them to Shadina, and after getting comfortable with her and the initial process, Burruss and Tucker agreed to have her carry their baby girl.

The couple encountered some disapproval among family members

While Kandi and Todd had to go through an extensive process that included counseling, they were also bombarded with questions from their family. In a video posted earlier this month, Kandi explained that they sat their children and her mom down for a discussion.

Kandi opened up about feeling guilty about not being able to carry the baby herself, and said at one point someone in her family texted her and asked, “Why do you want to have a surrogate? Don’t you want to just carry the baby by yourself?”

Her response was that she would if she could, but medical issues prevented that. The relative continued to question her decision, asking, “Don’t you want to be able to bond with your baby?” It was something that hurt her feelings and made her tear up, even if the person didn’t intentionally mean to do it.

Overall, their experience was good

Both Burruss and Tucker are happy they chose Shadina to carry baby Blaze and consider her a friend now. During the birth, they were all able to be present and help her go through the process of labor and delivery.

Tucker said the whole thing was “a dope experience” and they both hope that by sharing this video, they may help others in their position who have questions or misgivings about what it’s like to work with a surrogate.

Recently, the family shared an updated picture and video of baby Blaze sleeping soundly, wrapped in a lavender blanket. With the new bundle of joy, the Burruss-Tucker household continues to grow, but for now it’s unclear if the couple wants to continue to add to their blended brood. Time will tell.