‘RHOC:’ Emily Simpson Says She and Husband Shane Have ‘Fundamental Issues’ Including His Mocking Her Diet

The latest episode of Real Housewives of Orange County shows Emily Simpson continuing to have conflict with her husband Shane. On the show that aired November 5, Emily took Shane to task on his constant joking, including when it comes to staying on her diet.

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Not a good dinner date

The November 5 episode featured the couple out for dinner, where Shane’s teasing about Emily’s diet and trying to tempt her with food showed his lack of support. “Here’s the bread bowl,” Shane said laughing, requesting that the waiter put the food in front of Emily and fanning the aroma in her face. “We’ll tempt her all night long. You’ve earned a piece of bread, you’ve earned it. How ’bout we share a piece?”

Emily was able to stay the course and not give in to his taunting. “I’m not eating it,” she said, according to People. “I’m not eating any bread. I’m not eating any bread, so stop trying to get me to eat bread.”

She later shared on-camera her frustration with Shane and his continuing to treat everything as a laughing matter. “Everything with Shane is a joke, but this is a serious issue,” she said. “I’ve gained a lot of weight. I’ve literally put on 20 lbs. in, like, an eight-month period. I want to be healthy for my kids. I want to play with them and take them to the park and not feel like crap. I just need, not jokes. I need support.”

Real issues

The couple, who are parents to daughter Annabelle, 6, and twin sons Luke and Keller, 4, are apparently not keeping their problems away from the children. Emily revealed that her relationship with Shane had “fundamental issues” that needed attention from both of them, and they also need to stop arguing in front of the kids. “There’s a lot of separation,” Emily said. “We need to take more time with you and I and the kids… We have to fight less in front of the kids. We fight a lot.”

The couple had previously gone to counseling, but Emily stopped going to their joint sessions, which now makes Shane reluctant to try therapy again. “You didn’t want to go anymore. I was going by myself. So why now?” Shane asked Emily, saying she should go to therapy alone. “Show your commitment. If you’re really interested in working on things, then I’ll join you. … You want to go. You haven’t gone in the last, how long? Even though I was going, you would not show up, cancel last minute, do all these things. If you really think it’s worthwhile, then no one’s stopping you from going.”

Emily felt that too much of the burden was placed on her shoulders. “Why does it reside 100 percent on me?” she asked. “I understand that I have a lot of anger, I understand that I lash out. But I also feel like a lot of times you say things that push me there. It comes off to me that it’s condescending.”

The RHOC star admitted to dropping out of the couples’ counseling sessions, saying she did not see a positive impact on Shane. “I quit going to couples therapy because there was no self awareness or change on Shane’s part. It’s hard because for 10 years, I’ve always had a problem with the way he talks to me,” Emily said in tears. “That’s what I’m dealing with every single day, and I have little kids! This is really hard. I don’t know what to do. What am I supposed to do?”

Headed in a better direction

The couple seemed to be getting on the right track last month. Emily credited Shane’s being able to see his actions on television as a productive reality check.

“When you have the opportunity to watch yourself, sometimes the self-awareness that you get is just an entirely different perspective,” Emily said last month, according to People. “[Shane] really saw and heard everything everybody was saying and really took it to heart. He watched with the intent from learning from it, and he learned a lot from it.”

She added that his positive changes could be a result of “maybe just the millions of people tweeting, ‘Shane shouldn’t be such a jerk.’ I think he probably had a moment of self-realization where he thought, ‘Emily is a really good wife and really good mom. I won the wife lottery. I need to step up my game.’ And he really has,” she said. “I have to give him credit for that.”

Bravo’s Real Housewives of Orange County airs on Tuesday nights.