‘RHONY’: Leah McSweeney Says Being Able to ‘Thrive In Chaos’ Is Part of Being a Good Cast Member

New cast member Leah McSweeney from The Real Housewives of New York City recently shared that not only is the show extremely real, but it’s also an environment ripe for those who thrive in chaos.

She shared with The Cut that despite some viewers’ insistence the show is scripted, it is extremely real. “Sometimes people wonder if this s**t is fake,” she said, referring to the cast fights. “It’s not. It’s happening when the cameras are not rolling, it’s happening 24/7. It’s 100 percent real.”

Sonja Morgan, Tinsley Mortimer, Leah McSweeney
Sonja Morgan, Tinsley Mortimer, Leah McSweeney | Heidi Gutman/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images

McSweeney also shared that she was ready to dive headfirst into the drama. She quickly defended her friend, Tinsley Mortimer when Dorinda Medley came for her at a party during episode one. Medley badgered Mortimer and finally, McSweeney, who was sitting next to Mortimer said to Medley, “Why are you acting like this?!” The party was McSweeney’s first time meeting Medley on the show too.

Thriving in chaos on the show

McSweeney said being able to thrive in a chaotic environment is what makes for a good Housewife. “I thrive in chaos,” she told The Cut. “It’s part of being a good Housewife. Like, you better love chaos and conflict, because it’s part of the show, and it’s part of the dynamic between the women.”

Although she can thrive in chaos, watching RHONY freaked her out. She admits to being a fan of The Real Housewives of New Jersey and Beverly Hills. But she had a hard time watching RHONY. “Watching it while stoned I would start freaking out. I would have to turn it off,” she said.

She also shared with Ramona Singer in Interview Magazine how she chose her tagline, “I may float like a butterfly, but I sting like a bitch.” She said, “Well, I love to box. It’s a play off the Muhammad Ali quote, clearly. A lot of people look at me and they think I’m from L.A. because of the blonde hair and whatever else. They automatically think that I’m some kind of valley girl. But as you know, I can have a tough sting if I’m pushed into a corner. Aside from that, I am very kind. I’m a personable person. But if I do feel like I’m being disrespected or threatened in some type of way, I can turn up a little.” 

This isn’t her first Bravo show

McSweeney also appeared on The Millionaire Matchmaker as Patti Stanger’s client in 2010. Stanger criticized her for having masculine energy, The Cut recalled. When she appeared on the show she was 27 years old with a net worth of $2.5 to $3.5 million.

Despite referring to McSweeney as being too masculine, it isn’t the worst thing Stanger has said about a RHONY cast member. She used to be friends with Bethenny Frankel but said in 2017 that the Skinnygirl founder didn’t deserve love after apparently getting involved in Frankel’s feud with Jill Zarin.

“[Bethenny] is not kind,” Stanger told View co-host, Michelle Collins, People recounts. “We were really good friends, the three of us. And what she did to Jill — threw her under the bus, told her to get a hobby … it was awful. So, I said, ‘Don’t do that. [Jill’s husband] Bobby gave you the world, let you travel with him, paid for you, did [so much] for you.’ When people are mean to other people, they don’t deserve love. Sorry!”