At one time, fans thought Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber would be together forever, but their relationship was on-again, off-again.. and finally off forever. Now, Gomez is admitting that things between them were “a little toxic” and she has some perspective about what went wrong.
Gomez released new music all about Bieber
Gomez is back on the music scene with two new songs, “Lose You to Love Me” and “Look at Her Now,” both of which reference her relationship with Bieber.
“Lose You to Love Me” includes lyrics such as “In two months, you replaced us like it was easy,” which lines up with Bieber and Hailey Baldwin getting together after he and Gomez split.
During an interview with On Air With Ryan Seacrest, Gomez shared: “I wrote this song over a year ago. I feel completely different from when I wrote it. It’s more beautiful for me because I know exactly where I was when I wrote it and how I felt.”
She continued, “All I know is that these two songs were me wrapping up a chapter in a pretty little bow.
During an interview with Zane Lowe on Apple’s Beat 1 radio, Gomez called the heartbreak from that relationship “awful,” adding, “Yeah, it was pretty terrible. And that’s okay. I think I had experienced years of it already so I wasn’t really thrown off, but I was just exhausted.”
She added: “My heart was just so tired and I think that allowing myself to just say that was important for me.”
Gomez called their relationship “toxic”
The singer has definitely moved on to a new chapter of her life and it’s definitely given Gomez some insight into what a relationship should look like.
In a new interview with the Zach Sang Show, Gomez, without naming Bieber, shared how she experienced a relationship that was “a little toxic.” She didn’t have to say his name because fans know exactly who she’s talking about.
Gomez admitted: “You’re in a phase of life where you experience love for the first time and I think that can just be just a little toxic… You have this codependency that you think is love and then you have this addiction to the passion and the frustration with each other that you think, ‘Oh, that’s love,’ or fighting or doing all this stuff, ‘Oh that’s love,’ and I believed that for a long time.”
Maturity and experience have given her the knowledge to know that she doesn’t want to repeat that relationship, as she noted she’s been “super, super single for two years” but knows what she’s looking for.
Gomez explained: “I want it to be real and I don’t want it to be codependent or messy or lack of communication. I think you know when you get older, you find people that are actually right for you, that are actually on the same wavelength.”
Gomez went on to share that dating isn’t on her radar and that she’s “chillin right now,” noting, “Honestly, [dating] is so stressful so I’ve been having way too much fun being on my own. It sucked for the first year, I was like, ‘I just wanna cuddle, I just wanna watch something and be adored.’ Now it feels good. Now it feels awesome.”