Selena Gomez Confesses She Suffered ‘Abuse’ in the Past

It’s been a solid couple of months for Selena Gomez. One of her new songs “Lose You To Love Me” earned her the first number one hit of her career. She performed solo for the first time in years at the American Music Awards, and she announced her upcoming studio album, Rare. The new album, which releases on January 10, 2020, is an auditory compilation of the last four years of Gomez’s life. And while Gomez has confessed that she’s doing wonderfully now, she admits that that wasn’t always the case.

Selena Gomez perfoms Lose You To Love Me at the 2019 AMA's
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Selena Gomez and Taylor Swift

In a recent interview with KISS UK, Gomez talked about her upcoming album and who has had the privilege to listen to it prior to its release. Gomez listed a few people, but the most high-profile of them was none other than Taylor Swift. Swift and Gomez have been best friends for upwards of thirteen years, having bonded when they were both dating Jonas brothers. Just recently, Gomez wished her bestie a happy birthday by posting a sweet message to her Instagram story. “Love living many many many many years of life with you. You mean the world to me. You help me become better every day. Happy 30th,” the “Lose You To Love Me” singer wrote.

Gomez played Lose You To Love Me & Look At Her Now for Swift

Gomez has been open about the fact that Swift has shared music with her prior to its release, so she was sure to return the favor with her newest music videos. “I was with her when I played her some of it. “I’ll never forget when I did play the video for ‘Lose You to Love Me’ and ‘Look at Her Now’ at her house with her parents, and it was one of the coolest experiences because I’ve been friends with her for over a decade and love her family as well so I was like, ‘Do you wanna just maybe see the video?’ and she’s like, ‘Amazing, of course.’ It was so hysterical,” the 27-year-old recalled.

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How Gomez’s new song affected the Lover singer

Being a supportive friend, Swift created the optimal mood for Gomez to debut “Lose You To Love Me” and “Look At Her Now.” “She just started turning off every single light off in the kitchen. And I was like, ‘This is not that intense, Taylor.’ And then she played it and her and her mom just started crying. Like, just tears and tears and all of a sudden, it stopped, and it’s going to make me cry thinking about it because it wasn’t about how great the song was—which is a lot, coming from her,” Gomez added.

2019 is a much better time for the actress

But, the tears extended beyond a mere appreciation for the art. As Gomez and Swift have known each other for so long, they’ve been there for each other throughout good times and bad. Swift knows better than most what Gomez has been forced to deal with throughout the years and vice versa. Apparently, what moved the Lover artist more than anything was knowing that her bestie was in a better place physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.

The Rare singer opens up about abuse

“It was just that they had been on that journey with me intimately, and they were crying because of how proud they were for me stepping into a whole new era of my life and it not involving the horrible things—the abuse, the emotional chaos. It felt like I had a huge sigh of relief and to see her and her mom feel that way, it was very sweet. It’s like an older sister and an aunt proud of their friend. It felt great to have people I love see it as that,” Gomez shared. It’s great that the “Lose You To Love Me” singer is in a better, non-abusive, place these days and that she has a solid support system for when things aren’t going as well.