‘Sex and the City’: 3 Times Carrie Bradshaw Made Us Rethink Relationships

During Sex and the City’s six-season run, its narrator, Carrie Bradshaw, often posed questions. Sometimes, like in the earlier seasons, she broke the fourth wall and directly quizzed the audience. In later seasons, she seemed to be throwing those ponderings into the void. In total, she asked over 90 questions, and while some were bizarre, some made us truly question how we viewed relationships. 

Carrie wondered how important timing was 

Timing was a huge theme in Sex and the City. Fans may notice that the time of year is never mentioned, but the women talk about the timing of relationships rather often. Miranda Hobbes once suggested that a man will ask a woman to marry him when his “light is on’, meaning that any woman he runs into when he’s ready to get married could be “the one.” It is probably one of the most ridiculous things that the ever-logical Miranda said. Still, timing is important. 

Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw
Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw | Getty Images

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Carrie once wondered if relationships were all about timing. In a lot of ways, she has a point. Screen Rant notes that Carrie’s entire life could have been different if she had met Aidan Shaw before she laid eyes on Mr. Big. Maybe she and Mr. Big wouldn’t have had so many issues if they had met a few years later. Timing might actually be just as key as compatibility. 

Carrie pondered the adage that honesty is always the best policy

After dating in Manhattan long enough, Carrie ended up wondering if honesty was the best policy. She was honest with Aidan about her affair with Mr. Big after it had ended, and that ended in heartbreak. She was honest with Berger about what she thought about his book. Her honesty set off a chain reaction that indirectly ended their relationship. The writers of Sex and the City may have gotten a lot of flak for how they approached some topics on the show, but Carrie wasn’t wrong to wonder if honesty was really in her best interest. 

Kim Cattrall, Sarah Jessica Parker, Cynthia Nixon, and Kristin Davis pose for promotional photos
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Honesty and trust in a relationship are the ultimate goals, but are there moments when honesty isn’t the best policy? Carrie certainly seemed to think so, and so did Samantha Jones. Charlotte, on the other hand, was all about being honest. It can be argued that one’s interest in being honest is directly correlated to how much honesty they expect from their partner in return. 

Carrie once asked if you can ever really give up the ghost of a past relationship 

One of Carrie’s most profound moments came in season 4. After treating Aidan horribly by having an affair with Mr. Big, she wondered if she would ever be able to give up the ghosts of her past relationships or if they would forever haunt her. The question is a complex one. 

Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw and Chris Noth as Mr. Big
Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big in ‘Sex and the City’ | Debra L Rothenberg/FilmMagic

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Mic asked fans of the series if they felt they could let go of past relationships or if they were always haunted by them. An astonishing 68% of respondents said partners from the past would forever haunt them. Only 32% of respondents claimed they could leave the past in the past. It makes sense that people would feel haunted by the people from their past. After all, if all of our past experiences are cumulative, then those past relationships factor into who we are, whether we like it or not.