‘Silicon Valley’: Thomas Middleditch Says This Bizarre Habit Saved His Marriage

Thomas Middleditch is best known for playing Richard Hendricks, one of the main characters in HBO’s Silicon Valley.

While many fans are familiar with Middleditch’s work on the show, not a lot of people are aware of what goes on in his personal life when the cameras are not rolling.

Middleditch recently made headlines when he opened up to Playboy about something unconventional that he and his wife does, which has actually saved their marriage.

Who is Thomas Middleditch’s wife?

Thomas Middleditch on the red carpet
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Middleditch’s wife is Mollie Gates, who is a costume designer. She came from Louisiana and attended Louisiana State University, where she got a degree in Apparel Design.

She originally did not have a goal of working in Hollywood, though she became interested in working on movie sets after an internship with Paper Magazine.

“That’s when I discovered that I wanted to work in film,” she told 225 Baton Rouge in 2012. “In film you really have to know someone to get in, and I didn’t really know many people in the business [in Baton Rouge].”

Gates eventually did break into showbiz not long after. She has since worked on the set of numerous popular shows and movies, such as The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn (Parts 1 and 2), Django Unchained, and Dallas Buyers Club. Gates also worked on Silicon Valley for one episode in 2014.

When did Thomas Middleditch get married?

Us Weekly reported that Middleditch and Gates started dating in 2012. A source told the publication that “they’re very funny together,” and “Thomas is always making the whole room laugh.”

Middleditch and Gates got engaged in 2015. They tied the knot that same year in Middleditch’s hometown of Nelson, British Columbia.

What is the bizarre habit that saved Thomas Middleditch’s marriage?

Unlike other couples in Hollywood, Middleditch and Gates have managed to stay together for a long time. According to Middleditch, that is due to the two of them joining the swingers community.

Swinging is when a couple has an open relationship where they can have sex with other people, with the permission of their partner.

Middleditch first mentioned his foray into the community in an interview in July 2019 with film writer Zach Shields. Middleditch revealed that he and Shields, along with their wives, once went on a double date to an adult swingers club in Atlanta.

“The first night that we’re all bonding, we saw each other naked,” Middleditch said. “We didn’t do anything, but we certainly witnessed what a swingers club on Sunday night at like 1AM is like. It’s pretty sparse, let me tell you that.”

Recently, he went into more details about his swinging habit with Playboy. Middleditch — who prefers to call it being “part of the lifestyle” instead of “swinging” — shared that he was actually the one who convinced his wife to get into it.

“Only after I got married was I like, ‘Mollie, I’m sorry, but we have to get nontraditional here,'” the actor revealed. “To her credit, instead of saying ‘Fuck you, I’m out,’ she was like, ‘Let’s figure this out.'”

Middleditch said that the “lifestyle” has “saved his marriage.” He knew many years ago that he wanted something more than just a traditional marriage.

However, he thought that the urge to explore would go away when he got married, though it did not. That was why he decided to try swinging with his wife.

He also shared that rules are important in his relationship when swinging: “Compared to most of the people we’ve met who do this kind of sh*t, our rules are strict. We’re not off on our own; we’re together, a unit… I’m gas, and she’s brakes.”