‘Sister Wives’: Is Kody Brown Intentionally Pitting His Wives Against Each Other?

The trailer for the upcoming season of Sister Wives promises plenty of drama and some hurt feelings. The sneak peek, released by TLC in December 2019, covers everything from problems with the neighbors to discourse inside Meri Brown and Kody Brown’s marriage. While much of the trailer focused on the way the family is acclimating to life in Flagstaff, a clip towards the end revealed some troubling behavior on Kody’s part. When discussing his problems with Meri, he seems to purposefully pit Robyn Brown against the rest of his wives. Is Kody’s behavior an indication that all is not well inside the polygamist marriage?

Is Kody Brown trying to manipulate his wives?

During one scene in the trailer, Kody appears to be recounting a therapy session with Meri. It’s clear that the relationship isn’t going well, and fans know it hasn’t gone well for years. What Kody does next, however, raises more than a few eyebrows. Kody appears to try to get Robyn on his side by claiming she’s been getting “table scraps” ever since they got married, instead of the attention she, apparently, deserves. He seems to allude to that being Meri’s fault and not his own.

The tactic seems to be an attempt at manipulation. While the context of the clip is unclear, it appears as though Robyn may have been sticking up for her sister wife. To get Robyn on his side, Kody tries to make Meri out to be the bad guy in the situation. It seems to be a clear manipulation. While the clip was surely meant to give fans a peek into the plural dynamic, it doesn’t paint a flattering portrait of Kody or the relationship dynamic he seems to endorse.

Is Kody Brown emotionally abusive?

Kody Brown’s most recent transgression may have raised a few eyebrows, but it’s not the first time he’s been accused of being emotionally abusive. In the family’s book, Becoming Sister Wives, Kody admits that he was not physically attracted to Christine when he married her because she was “chubby.” The fat-shaming has seemingly continued since then, and fans have noticed subtly digs towards Kody’s third wife throughout the series.

She Knows notes that the Kody appears to favor Robyn, his fourth and now-legal wife, while emotionally abusing his other three wives. The most recent clip has done little to shore up Kody’s image. By attempting to craft resentment against Meri, it’s clear that Kody is a bully. One can only imagine what goes on when the cameras aren’t rolling. It has long been theorized that Meri is actually only a part of the family when filming. Her recent solo travels seem to affirm that assumption.

Kristyn Decker has claimed life inside polygamy is emotionally abusive

Kristyn Decker knows all about polygamy. Not only is she linked to the Brown family through Christine Brown, but she was in a plural marriage for years, too. Decker has long since walked away from the religious sect and is now happily entrenched in a monogamous relationship. With a book on the topic, Decker is an outspoken opponent of plural marriage. She even suggests that Kody’s recent behavior isn’t anything uncommon in the polygamist community.

Decker claims that the community is rife with emotional abuse, gaslighting, and attempts to pit wives against one another when things don’t seem to be going well. Decker also alleges there is a great deal of physical abuse within the religious sect that the Brown family belongs to, although there are no allegations of physical abuse against Kody.