‘Sister Wives’: Kody Brown Says This 1 Thing Made Him Question Whether ‘God Really Intended’ For Men to Have Multiple Wives

Kody Brown of TLC’s Sister Wives has always dreamed big. Since the fundamentalist Mormon polygamist patriarch with four wives first moved his family from their home state of Utah to Las Vegas, and later to Flagstaff, Arizona, he has hoped to bring his entire family together in one home. He believes it would be a spiritually and culturally vital move for the family to make together.

But it’s no secret that the Brown wives have sometimes struggled to get along. Kody’s first wife Meri Brown and second wife Janelle Brown fought bitterly when they first lived together, and third wife Christine Brown dealt with extreme jealousy when fourth wife Robyn Brown came into the family. 

On the Jan. 12 episode of Sister Wives, “Lonely in Flagstaff,” Kody unveiled his plans for a single, massive polygamist home to his best friend, Nathan. He also shared what living under one roof would mean to him and why the prospect of having four wives live together has actually shaken his religious faith in the past. 

Christine, Janelle, Kody, Robyn, and Meri Brown
Christine, Janelle, Kody, Robyn, and Meri Brown | Marcel Thomas/FilmMagic

Kody’s lavish plans include a central kitchen as well as one for each wife

Kody shared “photo-realistic stills” of a potential blueprint for his dream home with Nathan, who also comes from a polygamist background. 

The Sister Wives star admitted that living under one roof together with his wives and many children was one of his biggest dreams. “It overwhelms me with hope,” he told Nathan. “And it drives me nuts, because I think this is the biggest challenge that a polygamist family can have, is living in one place.”

Because of problems his wives had had with sharing kitchens in the past, Kody knew he’d need to design something completely unique. In his plan, each wife would have their own smaller kitchen and living area, as well as access to a central, sprawling common area and kitchen to be shared by the whole family. 

This way, Kody said, “No wife feels like she’s being intruded on…but every wife feels like she can come into that kitchen and that area and be part of the family.”

The ‘Sister Wives’ star said living with his four wives under one roof made him ‘question his faith’ in the past

The Sister Wives star went on to explain to TLC producers that living in one home with four wives was far more difficult for everyone involved than he had expected. “The one-home theory is the theory that most people coming into polygamy have. But until you’ve lived it, you have no idea what you’re dealing with,” he said.

Kody said he knew how sensitive wives could be about their private space, especially when it comes to sharing a husband and the effects that other wives’ relationships with their husband can have on their own. 

“My energy can consume the whole place because my wives feel that welcome for me, but they don’t want their sister wife necessarily peeking in on them,” he said of the potential shared home. “Even though they’re not, it feels like it because they track where I’m at.”

The Brown patriarch even told Nathan that tensions had run so high in the past, he had wondered if the setup was truly healthy. “It’s one of those things that make you go, with plural marriage, ‘Is this really a good idea? Did God really intend this?’” he told his friend. “It makes you question your faith a lot, man.”

Kody explained that sharing space was one of the most intimate things two people could do, and it would be important to separate the “energy” of each marriage within a shared house.

“Each wife wants to feel like her home is her home,” the Sister Wives star said. “I want them to all feel like, this is my place, and nothing can get through that wall. Not the attitude, the feelings, or the energy of that sister wife of mine, who sometimes is my best friend and sometimes is my worst enemy.”

The four Brown ‘Sister Wives’ are not thrilled about the idea

Despite Kody’s enthusiasm for the idea of a single polygamist home, he knew his four wives weren’t nearly as excited about it. 

“My wives are completely resistant to the one-home idea,” Kody admitted. 

But on the sneak peek for the Jan. 19 Sister Wives episode, not everyone seemed completely opposed to the notion. Janelle said the idea “appealed” to her, while both Meri and Robyn seemed open but skeptical. 

Christine, meanwhile, was not having it. “I don’t want to live together again,” she said adamantly.