Taylor Swift Needs You to Know Her Romance With Joe Alwyn Is None of Your Business

Taylor Swift recently dropped her latest albumLover, and fans are ecstatic about the great new hits. They’re also pretty excited about the glimpses into Swift’s personal life, which has been largely under wraps for several years. In fact, Swift is notoriously secretive about her three-year relationship with British actor Joe Alwyn. And recent interviews suggest that she won’t be opening up about it anytime soon. 

Taylor Swift has faced relationship criticism in the past 

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While fans are quick to heap on the praise for Swift’s newest album and come to her defense when she was accused of stealing from other artists, Swift knows the flip side of fame can be pretty dark. In fact, she has faced some serious criticism for her relationships in the past.

Prior to her relationship with Alwyn, Swift was romantically linked to several famous men, and these relationships were often front-and-center in tabloids. Her past beaus include Joe Jonas, John Mayer, Taylor Lautner, Jake Gyllenhaal, Harry Styles, Calvin Harris, and Tom Hiddleston. Many of these relationships were short, lasting only a few months. It left Swift facing mockery about her inability to maintain a relationship, a reputation she addressed directly in her song “Blank Space.”

In that tune, she sang: “So it’s gonna be forever/ or it’s gonna go down in flames/ You can tell me when it’s over/ if the high was worth the pain/ Got a long list of ex-lovers/ They’ll tell you I’m insane/ Cause you know I love the players/ and you love the game.”

Taylor Swift intentionally keeps her current relationship out of the spotlight

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While Swift has been dating Alwyn for three years, there are very few public appearances of the pair. Her recent interview with The Guardian proves that the privacy surrounding their love life is very intentional. She refused to answer any questions about Alwyn and said she doesn’t go around with him in public intentionally.

“I’ve learned that if I do, people think it’s up for discussion, and our relationship isn’t up for discussion,” she said. “If you and I were having a glass of wine right now, we’d be talking about it — but it’s just that it goes out into the world. That’s where the boundary is, and that’s where my life has become manageable. I really want to keep it feeling manageable.”

Fans turn to Taylor Swift’s songs for clues

Instead of getting the information about Swift’s relationship directly from her, fans are left to look for clues about her love life in her songs. The new album seems to be filled with them and has kept fans busy dissecting and interpreting. They think that “Cruel Summer” reveals that she started seeing Alwyn while she was still in a relationship with Hiddleston. They also believe that “London Boy” is pretty obviously an ode to her relationship with Alwyn.

Most telling of all, fans are convinced that “Lover” reveals that she and Alwyn are actually engaged. The song references “three summers,” which is almost certainly a nod to her three-year relationship. It then goes on to say that she is not content with only three summers and instead wants “them all.” Finally, the song hints at a wedding with the lyrics: “Ladies and gentlemen/ Will you please stand/ With every guitar string scar on my hand/ I take this magnetic force of a man/ To be my lover.” 

Whether Swift has finally found her happily ever after or not remains to be seen, but it appears that she will continue to only let little slivers of her personal life come out through her songs rather than live out her relationship in the public eye. Fans will just have to keep listening closely if they want to learn more.