The Adorable Way Jessa Duggar Met Her Husband, Ben Seewald

We’ve been following the Duggar family for years thanks to 19 Kids and Counting and Counting On. And while we may have fond memories of the oldest Duggar kids still navigating life as teens when the TLC show first aired, a number of Michelle and Jim Bob’s kids have since successfully courted, married off, and had children of their own.

One of the most talked-about Duggar children, Jessa, has been married to her husband, Ben Seewald, since 2014. And though fans tend to have varying opinions of the 26-year-old, we can’t help but love her description of how she first met her husband all those years ago. Here’s how the two first came across each other.

Jessa first spotted Ben when he was the ‘new guy’ at church

Back in May 2017, Jessa penned a beautiful letter to her husband for his birthday — and she posted the letter on their blog, The Seewalds. Her heartfelt words described how she quickly fell in love with Ben the moment she got to know him, and he evidently even caught her eye from the first moment she saw him.

Jessa explained in the letter that she first saw Ben when he was just 17 years old. She was late to church one morning and met his eyes as she scurried in. “Our first conversation was slightly awkward because we both wanted to say ‘Hey!’ but we were a bit nervous,” she wrote. And though she wasn’t sure if she’d see Ben again after that first fateful meeting, her eagle-eyed family members were waiting in the wings to help. She described how they invited Ben over for dinner, and that was the beginning of their romance. From that point forward, she knew Ben was the one she wanted to court and pursue — though she still felt doubtful that Ben would want the same from her.

She was worried their age difference would be too much for Ben

In her letter to Ben, Jessa explained she had her own doubts before courting her now-husband. “I’d found out your age, and calculated that I was 2 1/2 years older than you. Surely he wouldn’t be interested in an older gal, I reasoned. He’s a teenager, and I’m already twenty!” Over time, she realized Ben didn’t mind the age difference at all — and she further explained that Ben had a more serious passion for Christianity than any man she had met in her 30s. It wasn’t long before the two were totally obsessed with each other. “I loved everything about you– your smile, your laugh, your sense of humor, and I could tell that you loved me too,” she added.

Soon enough, their wedding had come and gone, and the two felt like they were on top of the world. Though their honeymoon love stage is over, Jessa called Ben “one of a kind” for his passionate, loving nature. As she said toward the end of her letter, “Your relationship with Christ is priority to you, and that has made a greater impact on me than you will ever know. I am thankful our sons have such a godly example to look up to.”

Now, Jessa has plenty of marriage advice for newlyweds thanks to her experience

Want a marriage as wholesome and loving as Jessa’s? She’s been totally candid in the past about doling out advice of her own for newlyweds to have a happy and successful relationship with their spouse. And though some viewers of Counting On may expect her advice to be relatively antiquated given her upbringing, it’s actually quite accessible for all.

As the happy mom and wife told Us Weekly, “Never stop showing gratitude to your spouse for all the things they do to help out. It doesn’t matter how big or small.” She also recommended scheduling in alone time with your husband or wife, as unscheduled date nights will rarely happen spontaneously. She and Ben have a standing date night they look forward to.

Aside from marriage advice for couples, she also has some tips for the individual. “Ben is great with the boys and is so sweet to insist on me taking a break from mom duties so I can have quiet time to read, or meet up with a girlfriend or grab a coffee,” she said. These moments of alone time are a great refresher, though she does admit it doesn’t take long before she’s missing her kids and husband again.

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