‘The Bachelor’: Cassie Randolph Calls This Part of Her Relationship With Colton ‘Unnatural’

Cassie Randolph and Colton Underwood have had their fair share of scrutiny. After meeting and falling in love on The Bachelor, fans developed a vested interest in their relationship. In the year since they’ve been together, they’ve had to cope with their newfound fame, which is often overwhelming, as well as countless breakup rumors. But despite all of the drama and speculation, the couple seems to be stronger than ever. However, there is one aspect of their relationship that Randolph finds to be completely unnatural.

Colton Underwood and Cassie Randolph
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Because the couple met on television, it can be easy for fans to forget that they are just two people trying to navigate a normal relationship. Fans often call Underwood and Randolph “couple goals” and set unrealistic expectations for their dating life. But recently, Randolph took to her Instagram page to address rumors and assert more agency into her relationship.

Cassie Randolph speaks out about her relationship with Colton Underwood

“Colton and I are happy in our relationship and taking things at our own pace. At the end of the day, this is about the two of us and our real lives. To be even more transparent, being in such a public relationship comes with its own set of added issues to manage. Our every move together is analyzed and every word is dissected,” Randolph began candidly.

Randolph continued on to say that sometimes she felt like her relationship with Underwood didn’t fully belong to her. “At times it can feel like our relationship status isn’t just a matter of our own happiness, but other people’s happiness too. Strangers (mostly well-meaning, thank you!) are so wrapped up in our relationship’s success or failure that this can create unhealthy pressure and at times it’s caused me to question the reliability of my own feelings. This also adds stress not only to us but those closest to us too as they just want us to be happy,” The Bachelor alum confessed.

Randolph says this part of her relationship is “unnatural”

Randolph then went on to share that the intense pressure she and Underwood receive to get married or even engaged is bizarre and an unnatural part of their relationship. “Obviously, the nature of The Bachelor is to end in an engagement, but when you translate that to real life and not tv land, it’s pretty crazy! Many people I know have been dating much longer than I’ve been dating Colton, but people rarely ask them when they are getting married. I totally get it, and understand it’s because we were on The Bachelor (so, of course), but regardless, it’s still an unnatural aspect of our relationship,” the 24-year-old confessed.

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Randolph also admitted that she knew this pressure came with the territory of dating Underwood on a TV show, but it was still hard to navigate at times. “I knew this was part of the show when I signed up, but often in life, we don’t know how we will respond or feel in a situation until we are actually in it. Most relationships don’t have people scrutinizing your photo body language or have people criticizing or over-inflating the subliminal meaning behind your every expression together. Again, I totally understand WHY our relationship has this scrutiny, but it doesn’t take away from the fact that it adds an extra layer that doesn’t exist in a typical relationship,” she concluded.

We can understand where Randolph is coming from with this post. A relationship, especially a new one where people are still getting to know one another, is hard enough as it is. Adding in the complexity of having your every move analyzed and dissected probably makes things even more difficult. We hope that as time continues to pass, Bachelor Nation’s obsession with Underwood and Randolph’s relationship will dwindle. After all, there’s a new season of the show right around the corner, and we’re sure there will be plenty of drama to mine from that.