‘The Bachelor’: How Important Is Sex in a Relationship?

During The Bachelor Season 24, Episode 9, we saw Madison Prewett reveal her stance on sex before marriage. She told Peter Weber she has decided to abstain from sex before marriage and she would have a difficult time continuing the process if Weber has sex with the two remaining contestants (Hannah Ann Sluss and Victoria Fuller).

Prewett’s big reveal has us wondering about sex and relationships. How important is sex in a relationship? We reached out to the experts to get their take on the issue. Here’s what they had to say.

Intimacy is just as important as sex

The Bachelor star Peter Weber | Paula Lobo/ABC via Getty Images
The Bachelor star Peter Weber | Paula Lobo/ABC via Getty Images

The experts agree that it’s important to build intimacy. Sex alone isn’t enough to sustain a deep connection with your partner. Adina Mahalli, a certified relationship consultant and sexual health expert for Maple Holistics told Showbiz Cheat Sheet that sex isn’t as important as creating intimacy. “Sex is not vital in a relationship. However, intimacy is very important,” Mahalli told us. “There are many ways to be intimate and people’s need for intimacy varies depending on the individual. Finding someone whose need for intimacy matches well with yours is important when finding a partner. People often confuse this with being sexually compatible with someone, but this is a misconception.”

Sex encourages bonding in a relationship

Another point our experts made is that sex can help a couple bond. Conflicts about sex can also make or break a relationship. “Sex is very important in a relationship,” Ingrid Sthare, relationship coach and founder of Relationship Coaching & Coupling, told Showbiz Cheat Sheet. “It’s so important, it’s one of the top two reasons for divorce. The other is money. Sex is another form of communication and is good for you too! It’s healthy and helps bonding in your relationship.”

Sex helps nurture a relationship

Madison Prewett and Peter Weber | John Fleenor/ABC via Getty Images
Madison Prewett and Peter Weber | John Fleenor/ABC via Getty Images

Dating expert and Datingscout.com founder Chris Pleines, says sex is a great way to nurture a relationship. Although you can still nurture a relationship without sex, it can help move the process along. “Sex plays a crucial part in a relationship, especially for married couples,” says Pleines. “It’s beneficial not only for its physical or hedonistic benefits, but also it fosters and nurtures positive affect for the couple and it also creates a strong bond between them. In the long run, this means that both partners will have high satisfaction in their relationship.”

Madison Prewett waited almost two months to tell Peter Weber about her stance on sex before marriage

Some of our experts think Prewett should have spoken up sooner (it took her almost two months), while others think The Bachelor contestant isn’t obligated to talk about her beliefs before she’s ready.

Mahalli says she understands Prewett’s reluctance, but she also says some people might assume Prewett was leading Weber on.  “It’s understandable that she didn’t want to tell him right away because it is a rather awkward subject to talk about,” Mahalli told us. “Nevertheless, some would [assume] she was leading him on by not telling him. It’s not that he’s in it solely for the sex, but their compatibility significantly drops if they’re not on the same page for this.”

Read more: ‘The Bachelor’: Should Madison Prewett Have Told Peter Weber About Her Beliefs Sooner? The Experts Weigh In

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