Season 15 of The Bachelorette is has been some of the best TV from the Bachelor Franchise in many years. Hannah Brown is the perfect mix of outspoken, weird, and cute. At just 24 years old, the former beauty queen is handling the pressures of the show with an impressive amount of grace. Throughout the entire experience, she has remained true to herself and adamant about her expectations for the traits a future partner should have. But there’s one thing that Brown just doesn’t understand about her season.
Unfortunately, throughout her entire tenure on The Bachelorette, people have slut-shamed Brown for her choices. It started early on in the season where she caught a lot of flack for choosing to kiss a few of the guys she’d developed feelings for. Truly, we’re still baffled that anyone would take offense to that in this day in age. Especially on a show where Brown is expected to pick her husband after just a couple month’s time. How is anyone supposed to find their prince if they don’t kiss a few frogs first?
What Brown can’t understand
It seems that the 24-year-old is just as confused as we are. She sat down with PEOPLE magazine to talk about her experience on The Bachelorette and admitted that she still doesn’t understand how she came to be the woman known for her sexual choices. “I sit with people who know me the most and think, ‘How have I become the sex girl?’ Like, I had only kissed five guys and I had sex with my two long relationship boyfriends. College was the first time. It wasn’t like I was what anybody would call ‘promiscuous.’ And then now I’ve been slut-shamed for it” the bachelorette said baffled.
Unleashing the beast on critics and Luke P.
But Hannah Beast isn’t taking the criticism lying down. She’s been adamant about defending her choices to Luke P. and critics alike. She maintains that physical interactions are all a part of the journey and she doesn’t regret them at all. “It’s just not okay because this show is about trying to find a husband and a part of a relationship, a marriage, is physical intimacy. And if I want to make out with a guy, I’m going to make out with them” the bachelorette said fiercely.
Changing the narrative
Brown feels that we have to do better at understanding that intimacy isn’t a one size fits all thing. What’s right for one person and one relationship isn’t necessarily what’s right for another. “We’ve got to change the language of how women speak to women and how men speak to women and how we shame them for the decisions that we make. Everybody’s relationship is different and we just need to support and encourage each other and make sure that we’re making the right decisions for ourselves and what we’re ready for in relationships” the former beauty queen continued.
The bachelorette is absolutely correct in her sentiments. There’s certainly a double standard at play when it comes to men and women and the expectations we have about their sexual experiences. While we expect women to remain virginal, we push men to gain experience as quickly as possible. Bachelor Nation is by no means immune to this terrible socialization. After all, when former Bachelor alum, Arie Luyendyk, went around kissing a great number of women on his season of the show, all he earned was a cutesy (albeit vomit-inducing) nickname “The Kissing Bandit”.’
Jesus still loves her
We’re so glad that Hannah Brown is willing to talk about these vital issues openly. We need to change the discourse surrounding women’s sexuality and by talking about her experiences honestly, and how people’s negative opinions have affected her, she is helping to change it. Women should be allowed to feel empowered by their sexual choices in the same way that men are. After all, there’s certainly nobody slut-shaming Peter Weber for having sex in a windmill.