The Craziest Thing Whoopi Goldberg’s Heard Women Say on ‘The View’

If you like Whoopi Goldberg’s takes on The View, you should see what happens when she’s completely uncensored and doesn’t have to break for a commercial. In her earlier performing days, that would have been on Broadway or in a club doing stand-up.

These days, though she gives the occasional performance, you’ve got the best chance to get the unfiltered Whoopi by reading one of her books. In 2010’s Is It Just Me? Or Is It Nuts Out There?, you can read about the day she left the welfare rolls behind and other personal stories.

In Whoopi’s most recent book, 2015’s If Someone Says, “You Complete Me,” RUN! the EGOT-winner tackles relationships. As someone who’s thrice-divorced, Whoopi seems qualified to weigh in on the subject.

About one third of the way through that book, Whoopi brings up the “nonsense” that’s stood out to her over the years when hearing women talk about relationships on The View. One thing in particular struck her as crazy.

Women who don’t devote time to themselves truly baffle Whoopi.

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In the chapter of If Someone Says, “You Complete Me,” RUN! titled “Know Your Truth,” Whoopi explains a reason she sat down to write her book in the first place.

“One of the things I hear all the time on The View is that women think they don’t have time or can’t spend time working on themselves or deepening their relationship with themselves,” she wrote. “I’m writing this book in part as a response to that kind of nonsense.”

That way of thinking genuinely baffles Whoopi, and she breaks down exactly why. “If you’re not together as a human being, you’re not good for anybody,” she wrote. “Take the time to get to know yourself. What do you want?”

In Whoopi’s mind, not answering these questions bodes poorly for any relationship. And her time on The View has convinced her too many women let this part of the process slip through the cracks.

Women on ‘The View’ discuss getting into relationships for all the wrong reasons.

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In a July interview with the New York Times Magazine, Whoopi noted how she doesn’t watch The View and never did. “These are not conversations that I’m having with my friends,” she said.

Keeping that in mind, you can see why she’s taken aback at what she’s heard from women on the show. “Sometimes I just cannot believe my ears,” she wrote in her book. “In our discussions on The View, the things coming out of people’s mouths are so weird.”

Whoopi was referring to reasons women get into relationships, which she wrote “often seem like all the wrong reasons.” She noticed many trying to convince themselves it would work. “How can so many people have such wrong ideas about what is going to make them happy?”

While Whoopi can sound preachy at times, she fully discloses why she needs to say it: She made similar mistakes in the past. In one great anecdote, she recalls how her mom handed her car keys on one of her wedding days and told her to drive straight off.

Whoopi stayed and got married even though she knew it was wrong. “So I’m trying to help people not do that,” she said.

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