The Most Important Life Lessons Taylor Swift Has Learned So Far

The blonde country bombshell who wrote hits like Our Song, Romeo and Juliet, and Never Getting Back Together turns 30 this year! The world has watched Taylor Swift literally grow up before our eyes, from a sixteen year old starstruck teenager to the beautiful, grown woman she is today. We’ve seen breakups, make ups, feuds, and the start of more new relationships than anyone can keep count on.

As a type of “gift to the world,” Taylor Swift recently shared an article called 30 Things I Learned Before 30. But what pieces of wisdom did the pop-country singer-songwriter have to share with us? These are the most important among the life lessons Taylor Swift has learned so far. 

Know when to strike back

Taylor Swift says that being sweet all the time can get you into a lot of trouble, and that being raised “to be a polite young lady,” has not always served her well. Instead, she suggests that people should be more like snakes, in that you need to learn when to strike back – only when they are attacked, of course. 

Trying and failing is normal

Swift hit this one right on the head: trying and failing is totally normal. The only thing you can do is just brush yourself off and try again. You might fail again, but if you try hard enough, eventually you can do nearly anything you set your mind to.

T-Swift expanded on this idea by saying failing is part of searching, and that “We’ll always be searching but never as intensely as when our brains are still developing at such a rapid pace.” She also added, “No, this is not an excuse to text your ex right now. That’s not what I said.”

Don’t hunt for everlasting youth

Taylor Swift talks about the ridiculous body standards women are held to a few times in her 30 Things I Learned Before 30 article, but this one is especially important. While men are taught to age with grace, and that silver hair can even be attractive, women are taught to look forever young… which is obviously a ridiculous standard that nobody can truly achieve.

Taylor Swift had a little extra advice, citing someone that all women should read when she said “It’s an impossible standard to meet, and I’ve been loving how outspoken Jameela Jamil has been on this subject.” 

Apologies are important

Saying “I’m sorry” can be one of the hardest things for a person to do, but Taylor Swift says it’s important to learn how to make sincere, honest apologies. Swift says people should remember that “Apologizing when you have hurt someone who really matters to you takes nothing away from you. Even if it was unintentional, it’s so easy to just apologize and move on.” She goes further to say, “Try not to say “I’m sorry, but…” and make excuses for yourself. 

Learn from your childhood

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Instead of dwelling on any issues you had during childhood, Taylor Swift says it’s super important to identify the issues and work on learning from them so that they don’t follow you around forever, but instead can (in a way) be rectified. 

Swift shared an example from her own life. “Never being popular as a kid was always an insecurity for me. Even as an adult, I still have recurring flashbacks of sitting at lunch tables alone…or trying to make a new friend and being laughed at.” 

T-Swift went on to share how she rectified the situation. “In my twenties I found myself surrounded by girls who wanted to be my friend. So I… celebrated my newfound acceptance into a sisterhood, without realizing that other people might still feel the way I did when I felt so alone. It’s important to address our long-standing issues before we turn into the living embodiment of them.”