In Hollywood terms, actress Jenna Dewan Tatum and her actor hubby, Channing Tatum, have been married for one thousand years. The couple met on the set of Step Up back in 2006, and the rest is history. While other couples have been engaged, married, and divorced in the time the stunning couple has been together, the duo has been able to keep their marriage strong and out of the vicious tabloids.
Still, despite love, happiness, and success, marriage isn’t always easy. In fact, Dewan Tatum has been vocal about keeping her relationship spicy and all of the struggles that come along with it.
Dewan Tatum is as outspoken on the red carpets as she is in her relationships, but that wasn’t always the case. In a 2017 interview with Redbook, she explained, “You change when you’re together from 25 to 35. I think maybe in my early 20s; I might have tiptoed around issues or didn’t want to make too many waves. Now it’s like, ‘This is how I’m feeling.’ You have to be OK with the other person becoming defensive, to let them be emotional and accept that it won’t be OK for a while.”
More people, especially women, shouldn’t be afraid to speak out in their relationships (romantic or otherwise) and let folks know exactly how they feel.
Next: A reality check
Nobody is perfect
We tend to idolize celebrities, especially when their relationships are out there for the world to watch. However, we should remember that celebs are human beings just like us. In a recent interview with Health, Dewan Tatum was quick to give us all a reality check.
She said, “When people say you guys have such a perfect life, I want to scream and tell them no one’s perfect.”
As a working mother and wife, we’re sure the World of Dance host is constantly juggling a ton.
Next: Balancing a spouse and kids
Making your spouse a priority
Parenthood certainly brings brand new challenges to life, which can certainly be difficult to balance. However, the Witches of East End alum is making sure she’s not neglecting her husband just because she’s bonding with her young daughter, Everly.
In a 2016 interview with People, she explained, “I think it’s important to be conscious about giving everyone equal attention. I’ll think, ‘Okay, I’ve been with my daughter a lot, so Channing and I need a date night.'”
Next: Growing and changing
When the Tatums appeared in Step Up, they were both fairly new to the entertainment industry, but since then they have both exploded to the top of the A-list. Being able to grow together has really helped their relationship remain solid.
I think there are such things as great fits. It is a great fit as long as you are growing together, and I think up until this point we’ve really grown together. Even if one starts to grow, the other catches up and vice versa. But I think a couple needs to be conscious and to want to do the work and be willing to look at the parts of you that need work. Both of us have been pretty aware and willing to do that. We’ve always had the same values.
Next: Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
We know some couples like to be glued to each other’s hips (how nauseating.) However, in their industry, the Tatums don’t really have that option. It turns out that time apart actually helps them keep things spicy.
The Playboy Club alum revealed to Redbook, “There’s a beauty in being two busy people because we get a lot of time to miss each other. To continue to miss someone after so many years is kind of a blessing in disguise.”
Next: Arguments and fights
As Dewan Tatum explained, there is nothing wrong with making your opinions known, even if they lead to a disagreement. She told Health about arguments in her marriage.
She said, “We’re not perfect! Are you kidding? We fight like other couples, we disagree about things, we have days where we don’t really like each other.”
Next: Making the time
Carving out time
Making your spouse a priority is one thing, but scheduling time to spend with them is something else entirely. When you’ve been away from your spouse for a bit or if you’re stuck in a rut, it can be easy to just go about your daily life, sticking to your routine. However, Dewan Tatum is adamant about scheduling the time to spend with her hubby.
In an interview with Health, she revealed, “We have not yet scheduled sex, but we do schedule time together, so maybe that is sort of scheduling sex. We will go away for a weekend to get time, but we have no real regimented schedule. I have friends who do this [schedule sex]; it’s on the calendar. We’ve never done that — it might actually be a good idea.”
After watching the Tatums compete on Lip Sync Battle, we doubt they’ll ever need to schedule sex.
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